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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.

October 20, 2016

Write Your Break-Up Recovery Story

When you’re dealing with the pain and trauma of a breakup, there are few phrases more annoying than “look on the bright side” or “it’s probably for the best.” Your heart has been shattered. Your life, upheaved. Who will get the friends? What will I do with my weekends? Will I ever see my blue […]

October 20, 2016

What Do Women Want: Looks or Character?

Would you rather be with a handsome man or an altruistic man? A British study recently published in Evolutionary Psychology examined how much a man’s level of altruism influences his attractiveness to women. In the study, led by University of Worcester psychologist Daniel Farrelly, 202 heterosexual women looked at photographs of pairs of men. In […]

dating tips
October 17, 2016

Want a Treat? Give One to Someone Else

People often tell singles they can’t be happy as a couple until they’ve learned to be happy on their own. I disagree—there are plenty of people in loving relationships who have never mastered the art of being completely fulfilled as a single person. But the ability to find lasting happiness, regardless of life circumstances, is still […]

online dating tips
October 12, 2016

How Online Dating Makes You a Better Person

For most people, the main goal of online dating is finding romantic love. Yet there are other benefits of online dating that we tend to overlook, such as helping you become a better human being. Okay, I know that taking stock of your personal growth provides little comfort when you were hoping for a second […]

dating advice
October 11, 2016

How to Say No to Anything – Including Your Dates

Dating situations are tricky, in part, because they sometimes require you to say no or reject someone when you have no interest in hurting anyone’s feelings or looking like a bad person. The good news is that there are ways you can say no that still manage to show respect and kindness. I’ll show you […]

say no and say yes
October 6, 2016

Sometimes You Have to Say No to Say Yes!

“A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, or is it?” Have you ever had to say no to something in order to open the door to saying yes to something else? What happened? I had a great conversation with a colleague over lunch last week. She’s been dating a guy for […]

first date questions
October 5, 2016

Four Must-Ask First Date Questions

What questions should you ask someone on a first date? The four questions below provide a nice springboard, designed to motivate further conversation without making your date feel interviewed or cross-examined. Ask these questions and you can potentially get gobs of good information to mentally feast on later! 1. What kind of relationship are you looking […]

relationship advice
October 4, 2016

‘I Don’t Understand Why She Left’

Dear Sara: Two and a half years ago, I met a woman online (I was 43 and she was 33 and an alcoholic, sober for 3 years), and we hit it off right away. She was witty and smart. We communicated really well, and we had great physical chemistry. After a few weeks, she said […]

signs of cheating
October 4, 2016

3 Warning Signs Your Date Will Cheat On You

If you remember one rule about cheating, let it be this: There are always signs in the beginning. What are those signs? How can you tell if someone you’re dating will one day cheat on you? Watch out for these particular things, and save yourself unnecessary heartbreak. Once you start dating someone, how much time does it […]

what's your dating story?
September 20, 2016

‘What’s Your Story?’ Here’s What They Really Want to Know!

“So what’s your story?” your date innocently asks. The question seems so simple, so delightfully inquisitive even. I’ve been asked it on dates, at networking events and family reunions. Yet I happen to find the question infuriating! I feel as if I’m being asked to neatly summarize the events of my life, including my professional […]