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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


dating and not losing faith
April 28, 2016

How to Not Lose Heart

“All my relationships have failed.” “There must be something wrong with me.” “As I get older, it’s going to be harder for me to date.” For some reason, we human beings have a bad habit of letting upsetting thoughts take over our brains. We fret and churn, convinced that this is somehow productive. Most of […]

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undateable
April 25, 2016

A Reader Asks ‘Am I Undateable?’

Dear Sara: I loved the letter that you posted from the young lady who was struggling with dating at first. She eventually realized that she enjoyed being single and meeting all types of people and loving them. Are some people just undateable (excuse my made-up word)? I am beginning to think I have been single […]

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controlling personalities
April 25, 2016

The 3 Most Controlling Types of People

Can we all agree that being controlling is one of the most frustrating traits a person can have, especially when it comes to dating and relationships? In all likelihood, you have dealt with at least one seriously controlling individual, whether it was a parent, friend, boss, or romantic partner. Controlling types can actually be appealing […]

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Woman by a mirror
April 19, 2016

What is your “So What Now?”

“It is not only what we do, but also what we do not do, for which we are accountable.” ~ John Baptiste Moliere I saw a cartoon the other day that said, “Divorce is like algebra. You look at your X and ask Y.” When I ask people going through a divorce what they might […]

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feeling left out
April 18, 2016

Dating Advice: ‘It’s Hopeless. You’re a Mess. Why so Negative?’

This week a client wrote me about a disappointing evening. She met a guy she liked at a networking event and … it didn’t go the way she hoped. Anyone who has been single for any length of time has probably had this kind of night. It can feel very significant in the moment, even […]

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sunday single person
April 15, 2016

Why Sundays Are the Loneliest Day of the Week

It’s a myth that date-less Saturday nights feel the most depressing when you’re unattached. I’ve heard many daters claim those long stretches of Sunday solitude are worse. That’s especially the case if you’re newly single and your former Sunday Fun Days suddenly have big gaping holes in them. Maybe you and your ex used to […]

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joy of cooking as a single person
April 15, 2016

The Joy of Cooking For One (or Two)

When author Klancy Miller was attending culinary school in Paris, she came down with a bad cold and yearned for a bowl of old-fashioned chicken noodle soup. A single woman who lived alone, she realized she’d need to make it for herself. The incident set Miller on a path that ultimately led to her first […]

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dating fake people
April 13, 2016

How to Spot Someone Who’s Fake (and Avoid Dating Them!)

One of the most confusing and frustrating traits in another person is fakeness. Part of what makes dealing with fake people so difficult is that it sometimes takes a little while to discover who someone really is. Because fake people excel at pretending, it makes sizing him or her up even more confusing. You can […]

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Woman with her dog tender scene
April 11, 2016

If I Want a Relationship, I Should Get a Dog?

If you’ve decided you’re looking for a serious, long-term partner, one of the best ways to get ready for a relationship is to get a pet. You could get a cat, dog, or any other pet, but getting a dog is going to be the best, savviest route to achieving your goal. You’ll understand why […]

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happy single
April 6, 2016

She Dropped Her Need for a Relationship—and Learned to Love

A couple of months ago, I posted a letter from a woman who was having a tough time dating and felt disheartened because her coupled friends were judging her for it. She had written me several weeks before, and by the time the piece posted she had mostly worked through the issue herself. She wrote […]

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