Are You Dating a Narcissist?

Dating a narcissist is, sadly, a fairly common occurrence for men and women, and knowing how to identify one is necessary for your sanity and self-esteem. Before we get to the signs to watch out for, understand that no one is a fool for dating a narcissist. In fact, these individuals often have a lot […]

4 Questions You Should Never Ask Your Partner

Today’s blog comes from the wise duo Susie and Otto Collins, who warn us all about asking questions that can lead to more serious issues in our relationships. I am sure I am guilty of asking at least one of these in the past! Oops… If you’ve ever asked yourself the question: “Was it something I […]

How to Convey Confidence – Even When You Don’t Feel It

Therapists often talk about the importance of being “authentic,” or true to yourself and how you really feel. As a psychologist who specializes in relationships, I completely agree – except when we’re talking about confidence. If you’re not a confident person by circumstance or nature, there are simple behaviors you can practice to become more […]

Can a Marriage Survive Adultery?

Today’s guest blog comes from psychologist Dr. Alicia H. Clark, who brings a little hope and lightness to a very difficult subject. Through her experiences with many couples, she feels the answer to the title of this article is — yes. Betrayal, deception, mistrust. And very, very hurt. These are the emotions people harbor after finding out their spouse […]

Dating Rules: Selling Yourself vs. Being Yourself

Dating guides frequently give strict rules about how to behave around prospective partners. There are dictates about who should pick the restaurant and pay the check, how far in advance the date should be requested, and how long to wait before sending the follow-up text. We’re advised to be open, but also mysterious. To wear […]

Could You be Oversharing on Your Dates? Insights from Sarah, the eH+ Matchmaker

Today’s blog is from Sarah, the matchmaker for eHarmony’s new service, eH+.  The new service gives you the benefit of a personal matchmaker who picks your matches and guides you to success. It’s eHarmony’s matching + premium professional matchmaking. We’ve all found ourselves on dates where the other person is talking incessantly about themselves while we’re strategizing […]

Life Lessons: Think Twice Before You Speak (or Text!)

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.”  Napoleon Hill I got a call last week from someone looking for some advice and perspective. She saw a text on her “tween” daughter’s phone from her ex-husband’s wife. It said, “I wish […]

How to Stay Hopeful, Even When it’s Really, Really Hard

We all know dating can be disappointing. Yet there’s a big difference between feeling bummed about a great first date who never contacts you again and taking that short mental taxi ride to hopelessness territory. One reaction passes within a few hours, and the other can last days, generating overwhelming feelings and defeating thoughts that […]

Franny Agnes Lee’s Latest Misfortunate Blind Date: An IRS Auditor!

First, she met a guy with a strange obsession for turtles. Last month, she encountered an actual leprechaun. I am always anxious to see who Franny Agnes Lee will be paired up with next — and this episode does not disappoint! I wish Franny would give eHarmony a chance to connect her with someone…maybe some day. […]

Let it Come Naturally or Treat it Like a Job? How Hard You Should Work for Love

Last month, I attended an event where I read from It’s Not You, my book about navigating life as a single adult, when an audience member asked an interesting question. I had said I didn’t think a romantic relationship was something you could pointedly go after, the way you might a promotion or a master’s […]

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