eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.

Cycle Lane in Urban Setting in Black and White Sepia Tone
October 7, 2015

Dating Someone Who Just Got Out of a Relationship: 5 Tips

Picture it: You meet someone you’re interested in, only to find out soon after that he or she just got out of a relationship. If you mention this to your friends, you’ll be hit with comments like these: “It’s not going to work because you are just the rebound relationship;” “Be careful because this new […]

looking for love
October 7, 2015

Is Finding Love Hard? If You Say So!

Love is hard to find – and harder to keep! Even if you happen to enjoy amazing chemistry, the timing probably will be wrong. Or she’ll get bored. Or he’ll give in to his commitment phobias, right? It’s amazing anyone manages to couple up at all. No matter how positive you try to stay, it […]

Girl in white is trying to guess what is under the cups.
September 30, 2015

‘How Can I Trust Myself Again?’

Dear Sara: I recently met a guy on a dating app, and we had an online thing going on for about two months. Despite our distance [we live on different continents], we talked every single day, almost non-stop through text, phone calls, and Skype. I tried (not very hard though, I must admit) to slow […]

September 28, 2015

Compatibility: It’s Not What You Think It Is

If you’re using eHarmony, it’s likely you put some value on compatibility. After all, that’s one of the pillars of our matching philosophy. In my conversations with people who use the service and have an interest in compatibility, I’m often amazed by the number of people who misunderstand what eHarmony compatibility is and what it […]

communication style
September 24, 2015

What is Your Communication and Reaction Style?

Successful dating requires you to be aware of how you come across to others. Specifically, you need to know the way you express your feelings; what triggers you to feel angry; and how you respond to criticism. As great as any relationship may be, there will inevitably be days down the road where you upset […]

ruin relationships
September 24, 2015

‘How Do I Not Screw Up My New Relationship?’

Dear Sara: A few months back, I was at a friend’s party and met a guy who, it turns out, I met last year at the same friend’s party. We met very briefly and he made a great impression on me but I was feeling totally introverted and sort of scampered away from him. When […]

Two Female Friends Enjoying Cupcakes At Outdoor Summer Event
September 23, 2015

How to Make New Friends

Most everyone understands that it can be hard to meet people to date, which is of course why there are so many apps, sites, and services to assist singles searching for romantic partners. But when you find yourself in search of platonic friends, it can feel a bit embarrassing. Isn’t this supposed to be effortless? […]

warning signs not to get married
September 22, 2015

‘I want a relationship but…I HAVE to Maintain Friendships With My Exes.’

I’m starting a series here on the eHarmony blog called, “I want to have a relationship, but…”. We’ll be looking at the ways people hurt their chances for finding a new love by insisting on behavior which is either unhealthy or counterproductive to a serious relationship. I know a woman, Madison, who has indicated in her […]

relationship tips
September 21, 2015

Microwave or Crock Pot?

“Don’t you hate it when you are hoping for microwave timing and God seems to have your situation in the crock pot?” This one hits close to home! And goodness, I can certainly relate. It drives me crazy when I’m ready for something to be “over and done” and it’s still simmering away, taking it’s […]

cheating issues
September 16, 2015

‘Don’t Worry … I Was Only Looking.’

“Cheating doesn’t mean you have to kiss, or meet up with someone else … Once you find yourself deleting messages or hiding your internet activity so your partner will not see it, then you are already there.” I was in bed the other night, surfing the web, and, as is not unusual for me, I […]