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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


dating tips
August 24, 2016

3 Ways People Overshare Early in Dating: Beware!

There is nothing quite like someone saying too much, too soon. At root, it is a total turn-off. What are the ways that people overshare? All of them have to do with emotional needs, and you’ll see what I mean in a moment. Do people know they’re oversharing when they’re doing it? Do they realize […]

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speed dating tips
August 18, 2016

My Date Said ‘I Don’t Want To Be Here.’ Neither Did I.

Many years ago, I participated in a speed dating event in New York City—one of sixty people meeting in the basement of a Mexican restaurant for a lightening round of 30 three minute dates. It didn’t go well. Though the event was marketed to people aged 30 to 44, many of the men I met […]

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EHOlympians Inofgraphic
August 16, 2016

The Most Desirable eHarmony Users Revealed: Think Olympic Sports!

With the 2016 Summer Olympics under way, eHarmony conducted an exploratory analysis looking at individuals who play summer Olympic sports. See what interesting differences we found here.

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asking questions
August 10, 2016

The Art of Being Curious and Asking Questions

  “You don’t have to know everything in the world. We aren’t supposed to. It makes you boring in mixed company if you can’t be interested and ask questions of other people.” ~ Angela Johnson I know enough about myself to know that I get really frustrated by people who don’t ask any questions of […]

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burnt out on online dating
August 10, 2016

Are You a Lazy Dater?

Recently I was chatting with a circle of women I met at a charity event when the conversation inevitably turned to relationships and dating. When the topic of online dating came up, a contest broke out among several women about who could be the most apathetic dater. “I don’t really feel like dealing with it […]

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onlinedatingtips
August 8, 2016

How to Decode Dating Profile Buzzwords: Which Ones Really Matter

“It will never work,” my friend told me after I asked her about a recent match. “He wrote that he likes athletic women.” “But you’re athletic,” I protested. “You’re always hiking and taking spinning classes.” “But I’m not super toned,” she replied. “That’s what athletic means.” I thought “athletic” meant “active” – as in her […]

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attracted to unhappy people
August 4, 2016

‘Why Am I Attracted to Unhappy People?’

Believe it or not, dating people who are unhappy is a problem for scores of men and women. If dating unhappy people sounds ridiculous to you, dig deeper into your own romantic past and you will probably find a person or two who was unhappy through and through. Does it mean something if you have […]

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unattractive traits
August 2, 2016

The 5 Most Unattractive Traits in Men and Women

At first, you may think that the list of traits that make a man or woman unattractive is endless, like a scroll that goes on forever. The truth, though, is that many unattractive traits can be boiled down to more fundamental traits. Take a look at the ones identified below and you will quickly see how […]

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ready for relationship
August 1, 2016

‘I Love My Freedom, But I Also Want a Relationship’

Dear Sara: I’m a 34-old-girl who never had a proper relationship. l started to feel so lonely, and seeing [people] all around me having someone makes me feel bad about myself. On the other hand, I do like my independent and free life but still want someone next to me. I wonder: Do I ask […]

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shame and dating
July 29, 2016

3 Types of Shame That Hurt Your Dating Life

Shame is one of those issues that’s often discussed without ever really operationalizing what it is. So, what is shame? Shame, boiled down to its root, is the feeling you have that something about you is wrong or bad. Where do we get our shame from? You guessed it: other people! It’s typically parents, other family […]

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