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Christian dating with eharmony: Find your faith-centered love story

by eharmony Editorial Team March 27, 2024

Over 80% of Christian singles have already tried online dating.1 But how do you choose among the many Christian dating sites and what are the first steps on your dating journey? With more than 20 years’ experience bringing couples together, we’re passionate about creating real love and supporting Christian singles in finding a deeper connection. Let’s look at how eharmony makes finding real love, rooted in compatibility, by connecting you with singles who share your values.

What you need to understand about Christian dating

Finding a relationship when you’re a Christian comes with its own unique challenges. Here are a few.

  • Belief systems – Being Christian doesn’t mean you believe in the same things or follow the same doctrine. Even singles of the same denomination can have different values and approaches to dating
  • Courtship – Courtship can be stricter when it comes to Christian dating. This is particularly true for those who observe the custom of no sex before marriage. Additionally, some singles may hold other values on what level of intimacy is appropriate
  • Marriage – Because of these limitations, some Christian singles can be quite focused on marriage. This can sometimes rush the relationship-building part of your dating journey 
  • Misconceptions – A sometimes annoying aspect of dating when you’re a Christian is how people see your relationship and the preconceived notions they hold around how you two engage and your respective roles in the relationship 
  • Level of involvement – Some Christians can have a very casual relationship with their church, and sometimes none at all. This can be a problem for singles who are more active in their congregation

Seeking clarity and purpose in faith-based relationships

Christian dating begins with clarity and intentionality. Before diving in, it’s important to define what you’re seeking in a relationship. One of the most important Christian dating tips is to find someone who shares your beliefs and relationship aspirations. Building a strong foundation rooted in faith and aligned values can lead to a more fulfilling and lasting relationship. By staying true to your faith and seeking guidance from trusted sources, you can navigate the world of Christian dating with purpose and integrity. The first step in this journey is to find a suitable platform where you can connect with like-minded individuals who share your Christian values and relationship goals.

How eharmony brings compatible Christian singles together

Being a Christian means trusting that God has a plan for you but sometimes that plan takes time to reveal itself. At eharmony, we understand that Christian singles are looking for lasting, meaningful relationships with people who share their beliefs. That’s why eharmony goes beyond traditional dating sites for Christians by focusing on compatibility. Instead of simply browsing through profiles, eharmony uses a comprehensive compatibility matching system to bring people together based on their core values, lifestyle, and relationship goals. This ensures that matches are not only based on superficial factors but on deeper compatibility, increasing the likelihood of a lasting and fulfilling relationship. As the #1 trusted dating app, eharmony has helped Christian singles to find meaningful connections online for over two decades.

How does eharmony work as a Christian dating site or app?

Your values and beliefs drive every decision you make so when it comes to dating, you want to ensure you’re meeting Christian singles with a similar outlook. Explore how to start Christian dating with eharmony compared to other major Christian dating websites.

Discover the real you

At eharmony, we believe love happens when you find someone who gets you. That’s why everyone starts with our Compatibility Quiz. Your answers help us find the singles you’re most likely to hit it off with.

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Complete your profile

The key to successful Christian online dating starts with your profile. We make this process as enjoyable as possible by having richly detailed profiles that are easy to digest.

Explore Christian singles

In your Discover list, you’ll find every eharmony member who fits your search criteria. Each member you see will display a Compatibility Score based on how likely you are to hit it off. Our powerful search criteria options let you easily filter your matches for other Christian singles as well as other factors like distance, age or desire to have kids, to name a few.

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It all starts with a Like

Not sure how to get the conversation started? We’ve made it easy: if something on a member’s profile catches your eye, just hit Like. Then you have the option to add a personalized message. You can hit Like on answers to profile questions, their hobbies or your similarities.

Two likes make a match

Once you get a Like back, it’s a Match. Congratulations! You can now swap messages and send Icebreakers or react with a Smile to get to know each other better. Because we believe love happens when two people connect based on what really matters. If you’re ready to find out, sign up today.

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 5 simple Christian dating rules

Let’s explore some Christian tips for dating and how to build a happy and committed relationship together.

1. Take the relationship at your own pace

There is sometimes a big emphasis on marriage when it comes to Christian dating and different people can have very different values around intimacy early in a relationship. It’s important to remember that the early stages are about getting to know each other, building trust and seeing whether you are a good fit together. It’s crucial to not rush that process. 

2. Be up-front about your boundaries

When you’re starting a relationship, it’s only fair that you’re honest about your personal boundaries. This way there are no misunderstandings and you won’t just waste each other’s time. 

3. Stay true to your beliefs

Never change your core beliefs, personality or boundaries for your partner. While strong relationships are built on a degree of compromise, this should not extend to those aspects of your faith and character that make you who you are. Otherwise, there may be lingering resentment down the road or you may even feel alienated from your friends and family.

4. Date with purpose

Christan dating works a differently from conventional dating. So, while it’s important to not become overly focused about finding a husband or wife, marriage is probably the end goal you’re working towards. If you feel a relationship isn’t going the direction you want, it’s best to end it then rather than stay out of complacency.

5. Get advice from people you trust

It’s a good idea to get Christian dating advice from people in your faith community who you trust and respect. This helps guide you. It also gives you perspective on how common your issues are and how to overcome them. This doesn’t have to be your pastor or priest, it can be family members, friends or other Christian couples.

Some dos and don’ts in Christian dating

Here’s a quick general list of the things you should do and some you should avoid when you’re dating as a Christian.

  • Don’t pressure your partner to move the relationship forward. This will just foster resentment and can affect their perspective. It’s important to respect their values and comfort level
  • Do enjoy the process of dating itself. Just because you are dating with purpose doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the ride. Take things one day at a time and have fun 
  • Don’t have unrealistic expectations. It’s important not to enter the dating process with fixed ideas about what it’s meant to be like and how your partner should behave. There is no such thing as the “ideal” relationship
  • Do communicate regularly. Let your partner know when things aren’t going how you want or when you need more from them. This will help you find a middle ground and ensure you both can happily date in a way that aligns with your values 

Discover genuine, faith-centered love with eharmony

Navigating online dating as a Christian can feel daunting, but eharmony simplifies the process by prioritizing compatibility and faith-based connections. With over 20 years of experience, eharmony has honed its matching system to help Christian singles find relationships that align with their values and beliefs. Unlike some Christian dating sites, eharmony goes beyond superficial, focusing on compatibility factors such as lifestyle, values, and relationship goals. By joining eharmony, you’re embarking on a journey towards a genuine, faith-centered relationship. Start your Christian dating journey for free today and let eharmony guide you on your path to love.

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  1. according to a survey of truelovedates