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When You Can’t Do Everything, Give Yourself a Break

Maybe this sounds familiar: you work all day, only to come home to a house that could use some attention. Your dog needs to be fed. It’s time to pay your bills. Maybe your lawn needs mowing or at least your houseplants are starting to droop. But you’re tired. All…

How to Leave the Past Behind and Be Present for Love

The past can have a major impact on your current dating life. From early childhood wounds to bad breakups with ex’s, the past can shape who you are and influence how you see yourself, others, and the world. Without evening realizing it, your past can affect the way you approach…

Why the “How Long Has It Been?” Question is Irrelevant

Several years ago I spoke with a woman who had recently moved to a new town and had joined a fitness group in the community. The woman was single but everyone else in the group was married. Shortly after she introduced herself she mentioned that she had just ended a…

Looks Matter to Women, But Kindness Matters More

I frequently receive emails from men repeating a familiar complaint. Why do women always fall for jerks? Why do they always overlook nice guys, like me? “Nice guys finish last” is a saying so deeply embedded in our culture that many of us accept it without question. But when it…

On Saying Thanks

There is a book I love by Lauren Winner. It’s called Still: Notes on a Mid-Faith Crisis, and is about the ways she drifted from faith and found it again, slowly and differently, in the year after her mother died and her married ended. When I think about being single…

No One Tells You This: Being Single with Author Glynnis MacNicol

It can be hard to find stories about women who are single and don’t have children. There are now so many more people delaying marriage and family, but it can be hard to find them. It might be tempting to think that they don’t exist.Glynnis MacNicol’s wonderful book No One…

I Just Haven’t Met You Yet: An Interview with Author Tracy Strauss

I Just Haven’t Met You Yet marries a memoir of childhood sexual abuse, family relationships, and finding healing from trauma with a search for romantic love and hope for the future. Tracy writes letters to her future life partner and writes about her adventures and challenges in dating, while also…

On ‘Long Shot’, Leagues, and Who We’re Allowed to Date

The premise of Charlize Theron and Seth Rogen’s new movie Long Shot is a simple one: the beautiful, successful person is romantically out of reach for the average, less than polished person who does not look like he has a personal stylist. Or is he? You’ll have to watch the…

Accessing Your True Desire for Love

Our desire to connect and participate in deep relationships is instinctual. We have an innate drive to bond with others and form attachments. We crave security, belonging, nurturance, love, and connection. As children and adolescents, we seek bonding experiences from our primary caregivers. While our reliance on our families changes…