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First Date: Planning For Success

Somewhere between deciding that I want to go out with someone and our first date, there is a question that I dread. “So, what do you want to do?” Occasionally, I’ve gone out with guys who had it all planned, who invited me into a narrative they’d...

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A Mindfulness Survival Guide to Online Dating: 10 Tips

Can mindfulness and online dating coexist? Let’s be honest – browsing the wilderness of online dating can feel like sending your ego straight into a land mine field. Not only does online dating encourage a judgmental attitude – it requires it. We find...

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9 Bad Pieces of Dating Advice to Quit Now

My single friends and I often joke about the advice we’re constantly given by our parents, our coupled-up friends and basically, anyone who hears yes, we’re ‘still single’ and yes, ‘still looking.’ The words of wisdom are never delivered with...

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Spending Valentine’s Day With Someone I Love: Me

  Even though I’ve been unwillingly single for most of mine, I’ve never hated Valentine’s Day. I’m pretty sure it’s because my birthday is the next week, and I’ve never tried to reverse the childhood idea that all of the flowers, balloons,...

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‘Why Can’t I Find a Relationship?’

Dear Sara: I never really have trouble attracting dates to be honest -- I am a former model (although never did much professional work but suffice to say, I am conventionally attractive/fit) and also a lawyer to boot. I've been told men may find me intimidating...

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4 Distorted Beliefs That Ruin Your Dating Life

Cognitive distortion is the fancy term for a distorted belief, a belief that doesn’t make sense because it’s not rooted in reality. For example, a thin woman who truly feels that she’s overweight has a distorted belief. The idea is that this distorted...

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Valentine’s Day. Does Anyone Care Anymore?

Love is in the air. It’s that time of the year again: Valentine’s Day. Co-workers may be receiving gifts at work, restaurants will be crowded with couples trying to make the night special, and to others it may as well just be another day. But does...

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Are Football Fans More Desirable?

As the Super Bowl is just days away (Go Falcons!), I was curious about something ... do guys care if a woman likes football? Do women find guys who watch football more desirable? Fortunately, our research scientists are just two floors down from me. I asked...

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5 Ways to Get Over the Pain of a Breakup

There is a literal pain that comes with the loss of a relationship: a sharp, palpable pain that most people feel at the point that their lower ribs connect. It’s a pulsing, weepy pain that digs into your diaphragm, and takes your breath away. It’s...

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‘Should I Try To Get Him Back?’

Dear Sara: About a month ago, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me (I'm 30 and he is 31). It came as a heartbreaking surprise. I've been in several serious relationships, and this one seemed like a wonderful fit—loving, easy, drama-free. He took...

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