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Try to be “just friends.”

8 First Date Questions You Just Gotta Ask

The best first dates are relaxed and real, as you get acquainted with someone new. No one wants a first time out to be filled with anxiety. I've heard plenty of people complain, “The date felt like a job interview!” Or, “I got the feeling I was being...

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15 reasons to date a surfer

15 Reasons to Date a Surfer

No doubt surfers have a certain mystique. They have a laid-back vibe and a hang-loose approach to life. Plus they look super hip carrying their surfboard down to the water and paddling out to ride the next set of waves. If you date a surfer, you’ll...

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protecting your heart

Protecting Your Heart: Balancing Control with Surrender

There are many things in our lives over which we have no control. We can try to protect ourselves all day long, but in the end we are still powerless to prevent the setbacks we all suffer as a part of life. So we must learn to surrender to that which...

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Why Forgiveness is Necessary When it Comes to Love

We’ve all heard the saying “forgive and forget,” but how many of us truly know what this means or how to do it? Forgiveness involves engaging with a complex series of emotions – anger, pain, frustration, and fear – which most of us try to avoid. Unfortunately,...

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Breaking Up Might Be Easier Than You Think

There’s no doubt about it: Breakups hurt. One study found that newly single people looking at pictures of their exes had the same brain activity as those experiencing physical pain. In the aftermath of Valentine’s Day, many people are feeling that...

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Why the Time for Pleasure is Now

Pessimism can be a bad habit. So can negative thinking or self-talk. And trust me, that's all they are—habits of thought that can be broken. You may have grown up in a family that had a propensity toward depression and chose to identify with it, saying,...

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How to ‘Dig Deeper’ to Connect with Your Match

If you participate in eHarmony’s guided communication process, at some point, you’ll be prompted to ask and answer three open-ended questions known as “Dig Deeper.” As the name suggests, they’re intended to give you and your matches a chance...

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The Importance of Being There When Things Are Going Well

One of the cornerstones of a successful relationship is supporting one another when things are difficult. But what about when things are really great? Now, more than ever, we are surrounded by good news. Opening your Facebook page and viewing your newsfeed...

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Rounding the Corner

“It will always be okay in the end; if it’s not okay yet, then it’s not the end.” I had coffee with a friend last week. She told me about her niece who is going through a nasty divorce. Her niece is angry. She’s hurt. She feels as if her life...

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It’s Not About the Shampoo (Listen for the Unspoken)

How many times have you had a conversation with someone where they got really upset over something trivial? Clearly, there was a subtext there and something deeper going on. Instead of just reacting in the moment, is it possible to figure out what's actually...

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