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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


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February 9, 2017

Notes from my Father

I’ve had this pressing thought lately about how lovely this world would be if we all treated each other with respect and kindness. This isn’t a new thought by any means, yet it seems it’s one that keeps resurfacing in my thoughts. At a national level, and certainly not to get into a political conversation, […]

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how to end a bad date
February 8, 2017

How to End a Bad Date – The Nice Way

Let’s all agree that bad dates – no, awful dates – happen and that they sometimes must be interrupted and stopped in the middle of the date. Though you can’t control anyone else’s behavior, you can control your own. If your date acts in a way that you cannot tolerate and you simply can’t make […]

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February 7, 2017

‘He Heard From His Ex. Now We’re Both Confused.’

Dear Sara: I started dating someone in the beginning of November. Everything was going great, [until] he called to tell me he heard from an ex. [He said it] messed with his head, that possibly down the line we could open back up communication again. I have been continually hurt by men, and started dating […]

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find a relationship
February 7, 2017

‘Why Can’t I Find a Relationship?’

Dear Sara: I never really have trouble attracting dates to be honest — I am a former model (although never did much professional work but suffice to say, I am conventionally attractive/fit) and also a lawyer to boot. I’ve been told men may find me intimidating by females and some men have admitted this although […]

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dating life
February 1, 2017

4 Distorted Beliefs That Ruin Your Dating Life

Cognitive distortion is the fancy term for a distorted belief, a belief that doesn’t make sense because it’s not rooted in reality. For example, a thin woman who truly feels that she’s overweight has a distorted belief. The idea is that this distorted belief is pervasive and has the effect of making this woman feel […]

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expectations and dating
February 1, 2017

Valentine’s Day. Does Anyone Care Anymore?

Love is in the air today. But do people really celebrate Valentine’s Day as much as we think? What do people do for Valentine’s Day? Read here to find out what our research has shown.

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January 31, 2017

Are Football Fans More Desirable?

As the Super Bowl is just days away (Go Falcons!), I was curious about something … do guys care if a woman likes football? Do women find guys who watch football more desirable? Fortunately, our research scientists are just two floors down from me. I asked eHarmony Research Scientist Jonathan Beber to do a little […]

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get  him back
January 19, 2017

‘Should I Try To Get Him Back?’

Dear Sara: About a month ago, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me (I’m 30 and he is 31). It came as a heartbreaking surprise. I’ve been in several serious relationships, and this one seemed like a wonderful fit—loving, easy, drama-free. He took most of the steps to advance the relationship in the […]

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too picky
January 10, 2017

Finding Fault with Everyone You Date: When No One is Good Enough

Because I write about dating and relationships, I’m always on the lookout for issues that affect both men and women. I occasionally find myself “accidentally” listening to others’ conversations as I’m standing in line or eating at a restaurant, and I’m always asking friends to share their own dating experiences to see if there is an […]

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reenter the dating world
January 9, 2017

‘How Do I Re-Enter the Dating World?’

Dear Sara: I just read your article about conquering the fear of rejection and continuing to put oneself out there. My question: How do I know whether my status is a stigma against putting myself ‘out there’? Why is a female widow viewed as unavailable? I am a widow, and almost every [time] I get […]

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