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November 24, 2015

Taking an Adult Approach to the Holidays (Even When You’re Seated at the Kid’s Table)

After I asked readers to describe their feelings about the holidays, many expressed frustration. They wrote of nosey relatives who grilled them about their romantic lives, of being relegated to air mattresses while married siblings received guest-room accommodations, and of wanting to vaporize during New Year’s Eve kisses. But perhaps the largest source of grief […]

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November 20, 2015

They’re Hee-eere: Navigating the Holidays While Single

For Kirsten, the holiday blues started early this year. Up until recently, she’d spent Thanksgiving at her parents’ house, using her old bedroom as a refuge when things became too overwhelming. But after her parents moved to a retirement community, the festivities moved to her brother’s house and Kirsten bunked in a room without a […]

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November 18, 2015

Why Relationships are Harder for Obsessive Men and Women

The percentage of men and women who have the full-blown disorder called Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is actually quite small (less than 5 percent of the adult population), but a much higher percentage of men and women have some of the features. These individuals tend to obsess on a regular basis, and they also feel compelled to […]

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November 12, 2015

Post-Breakup Question: What Did You Do Right?

Recently, a young woman told me about a guy who had disappeared after exhibiting some fairly skittish behavior. Now she was questioning herself, wondering why her relationships never lasted. I asked her to consider her behavior in this relationship. Did she have any regrets? Is there anything she’d do differently? She was silent for a […]

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November 9, 2015

The Breakup Test: 5 Questions

Imagine if we knew the precise number of men and women who were considering a breakup at this very moment. It would be astronomical, right? Every day, millions of men and women take inventory of their relationships and ask themselves whether it makes sense to end it or keep it going. If you are in […]

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November 2, 2015

Oh, No! I Feel More Attracted to My Date’s Friend!

Meeting someone you’re attracted to is always exciting, but it can get complicated when the person you’re attracted to is your date’s friend. There are a few factors you should keep in mind if you find yourself in this situation, and following these tips will help you make sure that you’re being cautious in making […]

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October 30, 2015

Going Old School: How to Be a Better Phone Date

People love to complain about how we’ve become too attached to our phones. The funny thing is that many of us don’t really like to actually talk on them. Even if we used to love to chat into the wee hours as teenagers, the convenience of texting, Messenger, Snapchat, and WhatsApp has converted many people into […]

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October 28, 2015

Does Dating Make You Frightened? Good.

Last week, I thought I saw a ghost. A flurry of light swished across the living room floor and I tensed for a second. Could it be? It wasn’t. Car headlights, I later realized, were reflecting off a side window and creating the eerie effect. But it was still fun to think about on a […]

October 26, 2015

Franny Agnes Lee’s Halloween Horror

It’s a sneak peek at Franny Agnes Lee’s Halloween night. No blind dates. No mysterious strangers. Just an evening in with her cat, some candy, and an ironic message. Don’t give up on love Franny! We are rooting for you. Until then, turn the TV off!   See More Franny Dates!

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October 26, 2015

Do You Lose Your Identity in Relationships?

What makes you YOU? The chances are, you could tell me at least a half-dozen things that define you. You may even fall into a lifestyle “type” – musician, biker, hiker/camper, triathlete, etc. These kinds of lifestyle choices help determine who our friends are, what clothes we wear, where we hang out, and how we […]