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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


Accept the Past to Enjoy the Present
January 30, 2015

Accept the Past to Enjoy the Present

Hanging on to old hurts, failed relationships, or other negative experiences just keeps you stuck in that emotional space. I have seen a few people in my life do just that, and it is very sad. Some of them could never move forward, forgive, and heal. I often wonder what their lives could have been like […]

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Can 36 Questions Make You Fall in Love?
January 28, 2015

Can 36 Questions Make You Fall in Love?

Can you make a decision to fall in love? Writer Mandy Len Catron wanted to find out. As Catron writes in a wildly popular New York Times Modern Love column, she told an acquaintance about a technique, developed by psychologist Arthur Aron, in which two strangers ask each other 36 questions of increasing intimacy and […]

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Self-love 101: What It Really Means to ‘love Yourself’
January 28, 2015

Self-love 101: What It Really Means to ‘love Yourself’

If you’re looking for romantic love, you’ve probably heard the advice that the key to getting someone to love you is to love yourself first. Yet the phrase is thrown around so casually, it’s assumed we should all know what it means. However, the “how to” isn’t always obvious. At a basic level, it involves […]

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How to Approach Someone New (Without Being Cheesy!)
January 16, 2015

How to Approach Someone New (Without Being Cheesy!)

This subject doesn’t need much of an introduction because we all know how awkward it is to approach someone new, as well as how cheesy so many well-intentioned efforts can be. Yet mastering the art of an introduction is actually much easier than you may think. Ask for permission. Walking over to talk to someone […]

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How Dating Can Make You Strong
January 13, 2015

How Dating Can Make You Strong

In her memoir, Bossypants, comedian Tina Fey explains how performing improvisational comedy made her a stronger person: “What I learned about ‘bombing’ as an improviser at Second City was that it doesn’t kill you. No matter how badly an improv set goes, you will still be physically alive when it’s over,” Fey writes. This is […]

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The Most Important Thing to Remember in Dating (Which You Likely Forget!)
January 12, 2015

The Most Important Thing to Remember in Dating (Which You Likely Forget!)

In today’s guest post, the amazing Lindsay Tigar returns with an inspiring new blog about how she shifted her focus inward, and has found some real happiness. You will love this one! Enjoy — and congrats to Lindsay. Can’t wait to see where life takes you next. Written by Lindsay Tigar My ex and I broke […]

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Help: My Boyfriend Keeps Talking to His Ex!
January 12, 2015

Help: My Boyfriend Keeps Talking to His Ex!

It’s inevitable, an ex is bound to pop up in almost every relationship. It can either cause your relationship to fail, or make you stronger. It’s all in the approach of how it’s dealt with. Although I believe it’s possible, I don’t believe it’s common for “friendships” with ex’s to work out well for anyone in […]

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Feeling Desperate? Don’t Worry. No One Can Tell.
January 9, 2015

Feeling Desperate? Don’t Worry. No One Can Tell.

Singles have to navigate a razor-thin line. You have to show people that you’re happily single, but you can’t be too happy—otherwise people worry that you’re not “making room” for love. On the other hand, if you admit that you aren’t satisfied with your solo life—that you really, really want to meet someone—then the diagnosis […]

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Romance Roadblocks: When Dating is Making You Angry
January 8, 2015

Romance Roadblocks: When Dating is Making You Angry

People get angry when they don’t get something that they really, really want. If you’re one of those people who’s been duking it out in the dating world – date after date, trying to find someone who sticks – you can reach a point where you start getting angry. Getting angry makes perfect sense, too. […]

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Are You Really Ready for a Relationship? These 6 Signs Point to ‘No’
January 8, 2015

Are You Really Ready for a Relationship? These 6 Signs Point to ‘No’

You might really want a relationship. But are you emotionally ready for one? Taking a look at ourselves is challenging, but rewarding and smart in the end. And not just for you — but for anyone taking the time to invest in you. I really liked today’s guest blog from relationship expert Aaron Kaplan. Written by Aaron […]

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