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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


dating and harry potter
March 28, 2017

Sorting Your Significant Other: Dating for Your Harry Potter House

Not long ago, my roommate and I were talking about dating when we struck upon another topic we both enjoy: Harry Potter. Beyond the obvious question: who in the wizarding world would you like to date? (For me, it’s between Sirius Black and Oliver Wood), there is another, more real world question: what house is […]

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how to move on
March 27, 2017

‘My Ex Has Cut Me Off — And I Can’t Move On’

Dear Sara: In 2015, my husband of 25 years and I ended our marriage. We got married after only knowing each other for a few days, … and it was rocky due to the fact that he drank alcohol daily for self-medication. He was abusive on several occasions, but I felt that until I had […]

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dating a narscisisst
March 24, 2017

Which is The Most Difficult Personality Type to Date?

Most people encounter a difficult person and call them “crazy” or “awful,” but there are actually clinical terms that therapists use to describe them. If a person demonstrates a pattern of difficult, frustrating behavior over time, there is a good chance that the individual in question has what therapists call a “personality disorder.” Common personality […]

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yoga is like dating
March 23, 2017

Namaste: Dating Lessons From Yoga

When I first started taking yoga classes, I was nervous. I wasn’t sure what to wear, or whether I’d be good at it. But I’d heard good things about yoga. I’d heard that I could take the lessons of mindfulness and apply them to other areas of my life. My friends told me that it […]

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life on hold
March 23, 2017

On Hold! Now What?

Our pastor recently delivered a sermon series talking about what we do when life puts us “on hold.” He used an old-fashioned phone as a prop. Well, it was actually a push-button, corded phone, so really not that old-fashioned (after all, it could have been a rotary dial), but it served it’s purpose for reminding […]

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March 21, 2017

How to Approach Dating Like a Financial Planner: A Winning Formula

One of the best ways to find a successful relationship is to approach dating like a financial planner. I’ll explain the idea in a moment, but the rule of thumb is simple: Don’t be more careful with your money than you are with your feelings. Far too often, men and women are more careful and […]

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closeup of two separated pieces of a puzzle which together form a heart on a rustic wooden surface, depicting the idea of rupture or cooperation
March 21, 2017

‘I’m Afraid To Get Hurt Again’

Dear Sara: I am scared of dating or trusting a guy again because the last relationship I had almost destroyed me. He broke my heart into pieces. I had never fallen in love like this before. I gave him everything. I almost forgot to leave anything for myself. Now I am scared that if I […]

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Man relaxing in his chair and enjoying the view from office window
March 15, 2017

Men Who Withhold Feelings or Affection: Should Women Boycott Dating Them?

I was at a lunch recently with some friends, where one guy ended up sharing about his dating life. First, he told us he’d never told his girlfriend of five years that he loved her. Then, he said point-blank, “I don’t really show my feelings in a relationship.” It was interesting that he made these […]

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Woman at the library, she is searching books on the bookshelf and taking a textbook on the shelf, hand close up
March 7, 2017

Learning to Date Again

It had been a long time since I’d been on a date that January evening, a couple of years ago. I’d told myself, my friends, and my therapist, that it wasn’t a big deal, but I wasn’t being honest with myself. The truth was, I was scared. I didn’t want to get hurt again. As […]

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Close up woman walking on a path. Fitness concept.
March 7, 2017

When You’re ‘Too Needy’ in Relationships: How to Get Your Power Back

Has anyone ever told you that you’re too needy in relationships? Have you ever felt like you’re too needy? Self-disclosure alert: This is a problem I used to have, so I know it well. In the past, I had relationships where I felt like I was always dependent and needy. Thankfully, I got therapy early […]

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