eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


biggest mistakes in online dating
May 22, 2015

4 Big Online Dating Mistakes People are Making Right Now

Online dating has changed a lot in the last few years. As technology advances, social norms morph, and personal preferences change, the decisions and mistakes people make evolve as well. Last year, I oversaw the launch of a new version of eHarmony, eH+. It’s a premium service that takes eHarmony’s matching algorithm and combines it with […]

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finding love
May 19, 2015

Looking for The Real Thing? Find Someone Comfortable

Ask him for a date, or let him pursue you? Respond to the text immediately, or let her wait? Tell him you love him, or stay mum until he says it first? The early days of a relationship are thrilling, but also stressful. That heavenly new-love high can feel pretty precarious, as if one false […]

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Do you hide behiind the computer?
May 19, 2015

Stop the Endless Emailing and Go on a Date!

You know the feeling: You anxiously open an email from the guy you’ve been corresponding with over the last few weeks. After quickly scanning the content, you see a series of question marks at the end. Oh, the agony! He’s asking you more questions. This time he wants to know: “What kind of music do […]

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rules of marriage
May 18, 2015

Rule #6: Know That You Won’t Always Be Happy

“Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.” ~ Helen Keller I recently read an article with a great headline that said something to the effect of, “Follow these 7 marriage rules from divorce attorneys … and never end […]

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falling in love feels scary
May 18, 2015

Why Falling in Love Feels So Terrifying

If falling in love is supposed to be so wonderful, why does it feel so awful sometimes? On one hand, colors seem so much brighter, and you just seem to float throughout your day. However, you can’t eat. You can’t focus. You can’t stop thinking about him or her. And you’re suddenly saddled with uncertainty […]

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texting relationships
May 14, 2015

Bringing a Text Romance Into the Real World

Dear Sara: In November of last year, I finally put myself out into the online dating scene. I have been divorced for about three years. Feeling nervous, I finally found someone I was interested in. We met for coffee [and have] been out on a couple of movie dates. He admitted to me a few […]

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divorced and dating
May 13, 2015

Divorced and Dating Again: What I Know For Sure

Coming back to the dating world after a marriage fails can be one of two things: depressing or exciting. I hope that you feel it’s more exciting after you’re finished reading this article. There’s no doubt that no one gets married to get divorced, but divorces happen every day. Regardless of why your marriage ended, […]

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illusion of perfection
May 13, 2015

Rule #5: Don’t Expect Perfection

“Life is better when you stop criticizing the faults, instead look for the beauty in the flaws.” I recently read an article with a great headline that said something to the effect of, “Follow these 7 marriage rules from divorce attorneys … and never end up in their offices!”  What married person wouldn’t continue to […]

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happy people arent best support
May 12, 2015

Feeling Discouraged? You Might Want to Avoid Your Happiest Friends

If you’ve had a bad date and need someone to talk to, your most happily married friend is probably not the best choice—even if she thinks she is. A study published in the journal PLOS One found that people who are in a good mood gave themselves higher marks for their empathetic skills than people […]

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when to stop dating other people
May 11, 2015

Do You Like Your Date Enough to Stop Seeing Other People?

Before we get into my specific advice on the subject, I want to make sure it’s understood that dating a few people at the same time is actually a very good practice. Why? Because people are more likely to settle down with someone who’s not a great fit when they only date one person at […]

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