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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


how to get over someone
December 7, 2016

‘I Have No Relationship Experience’

Dear Sara: Growing up, I lived a very sheltered life: Most things were simply given to me, in return for a level of conformity that followed certain expectations. Throughout high school, I was essentially prohibited from being in a relationship (along with strict avoidance of drinking and partying—yeah, those were fun years) as I was […]

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Young people in cafe looking at each other
December 6, 2016

Why Dating Two People at Once Isn’t Cheating

Last month, I wrote an article for eHarmony titled “How to Date Two People at the Same Time (and Not Go Crazy).” The response on Twitter was extreme. Some men and women could not believe that a psychologist who specializes in relationships would suggest that it is okay or morally acceptable to date two people […]

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nice guys and dating
November 30, 2016

‘Nice Guys’ Make Her Want To Run

Dear Sara: My therapist was telling me that there is a certain pattern in my relationships and that I should rather go for the nice guy to become happy with a man. She tells me that my loving feelings for a man are a sign of “active patterns.” She told me “take the nice guy […]

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person who interrupts
November 29, 2016

When Your Date Constantly Interrupts You: What it Means & What to Do

Everyone knows that interrupting others when they’re talking is rude, so why do some people keep doing it? Few things are as annoying as getting constantly interrupted. This behavior puts you on edge and frustrates you to the point where you may want to stop the conversation altogether. There are a few basic reasons why interrupters […]

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us-infographic-dating-dealbreakers
November 29, 2016

The Biggest Dating Dealbreaker May Surprise You…

One of the coolest things about working at eHarmony is all of the interesting data we have access to. Millions of eHarmony members have answered our questions, and here is what they currently feel about smoking, cheating, lying, and the biggest dealbreaker of all — rudeness! This one caught me by surprise, but I am […]

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November 21, 2016

How to Date Two People at the Same Time (and Not Go Crazy)

Dating more than one person at a time may sound a little overwhelming, but it’s actually one of the best ways to find the right match for you. When you date only one person, it’s easy to get emotionally attached quickly. Remember — it’s hard to detach once you have already gotten attached! When you start to […]

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relationship needs
November 21, 2016

What Do Men and Women Want in a First Date?

All successful relationships have to start somewhere, and most couples can remember the exciting energy of their first date together. As such an important foundation, we wanted to ask eHarmony members about their hopes and fears and what they think is most important on a first date. We surveyed 452 eHarmony members (231 men and […]

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single during thanksgiving
November 21, 2016

Single at Thanksgiving: A Simple Plan For Dealing With Family

My friend Rachel recently told me about a furniture shopping trip she took with her mother. Her mom wanted to purchase a comfortable guest bed that would accommodate her sister and brother-in-law. Both Rachel and her sister were in their 40s and had recently married for first time. Their mother was still adjusting to the […]

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what men want
November 11, 2016

Men Are Looking for a Nurturer, Not Another Mother

Having worked with hundreds of male clients over the years, I can say with assurance that what men are really looking for in a woman is nurturance. Men are looking for a woman who can be strong, but also kind and warm. Men want a woman who shows them physical affection, and also listens when […]

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Love questions
November 11, 2016

3 Questions To Ask Yourself About a Potential Partner

Dear Sara: How would I know who would be a potential spouse for me? – A Dear A: There are so many elements that go into a good relationship. At first, of course, you’re focused on the fun, exciting stuff. Are you attracted to them? Do you enjoy talking to them? Do you like doing […]

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