eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


forgiving an ex
September 3, 2015

Yes, Forgiving Your Ex is Necessary to Move On

Every day brings a new raft of breakups as men and women let go of relationships that weren’t right for them. It’s what these men and women tell themselves about their past relationships and their exes that determines how well their next ones will go. Forgiveness is a crucial part of the healing process after a breakup. […]

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dating tips
September 1, 2015

The Definition of Love

Love is all around us. But what does it really mean to be in love? Psychologists have spent years defining love, and have found 3 main traits of a loving relationship.

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meeting in person after online dating
August 31, 2015

Guys, Here’s What Your Date Would Love to Hear From You…

Today’s message is a simple one. It’s a set of suggestions to keep you from being a first date disaster. It’s a gentle reminder, gentlemen, to spend more time asking her questions and less time talking about yourself. When we talk to women who use eH+, eHarmony’s personal matchmaking service, about their first dates there […]

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online dating advice
August 27, 2015

Did a Match Blow Off Your Email? The Truth Behind the Fade

The email exchange had taken place more than a year ago, but my friend was still nursing the wound. “She just dropped me,” he recalled of a conversation with an online dating match. “We were in the middle of this long back and forth, and I never heard back from her. What’s up with that?” […]

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Students in a cafe
August 24, 2015

How to Start a Conversation — In Real Life

Before internet dating began, it could be extremely tough for single people to meet one another. If you didn’t find your partner in school and weren’t meeting eligible singles in your family or friend circles, then you were at the mercy of chance: you just had to hope that you would walk into the right […]

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dating advice tv
August 20, 2015

When The Single Life Doesn’t Resemble a Sitcom

Dear Sara: I read an article you wrote [about being single for a very long time] last year while house sitting a married friend’s cats–as only a single girl can do! Then I ordered your book. I have read EVERY SINGLE book on the market on “What was wrong with me?” Well no more! Your […]

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dating advice
August 19, 2015

When You Date Someone, You Date Their Profession, Too

Let’s admit it: Some professionals have a prestigious or exciting reputation. If you start dating someone who has one of the following professions, it’s hard to deny that these jobs sound prestigious: lawyer, doctor, banker, business owner, or high-level manager, among others. Similarly, your new date may have a profession that sounds exciting: pilot, fireman, […]

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dating questions
August 19, 2015

‘Why Are My Married Friends So Smug?’

Dear Sara: What goes on psychologically that causes people to brag about their relationships and then chastise single friends for wanting the same thing? I’ve read studies before saying that happiness actually causes selfishness, and that if you’re down, it’s best not to talk to a friend who’s very happy with their life because they’re […]

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first date tips
August 18, 2015

Too Many Disappointing First Dates? How to Get Back Those Butterflies

How’s this for an unfair investment of time? You can spend weeks getting to know someone over email, text, and phone. You might let yourself get a little excited about meeting him or her in person for the first time. Maybe you’ve checked out his profile in the meantime and admired his Alaskan vacation photos […]

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dating in your league
August 14, 2015

What Dating ‘In Your League’ Should Mean

Right off the bat, I must tell you that this expression – dating “in your league” – is one I detest. People use this expression to make immature comparisons between people, and the suggestion is always that some people make better catches than others because they’re more attractive. If you regularly read my eHarmony blog, […]

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