How do you know when it’s love? You think you love her, but you’re just not sure…
How can I tell if I love her?
The general consensus around these parts is that falling in love happens gradually, over time. Instead of one glorious moment with violins in the background, you cross a series of hurdles together - and with each one, you become a little more sure. Maybe you’re waiting for two hours because the restaurant overbooked and her easy-going, “who cares?” attitude gets you. Or her kindness to your family and friends seals the deal. “If there was any one time I knew I loved Julie, it was when I saw her interact with my son,” explains Jeff from Seattle. “She was so wonderful with him.” If you’re trying to figure out whether it's love you're feeling, here are 8 signs that those three little words might just be in order.
You're scared to death...
of losing her, of keeping her, of never being with another woman... the list goes on and on. Are you ready for all this? What if it crashes and burns like your last relationship? Wait, how did you let this happen again? Yet deep down, you know you’re going for it anyway.
You'll do whatever it takes to impress her.
“You want to go eat at the vegetarian restaurant? Sure." "And salsa dance afterward? Why not?” When you’re willing to bend your own rules, try new things, and go the extra mile for her - like walking her fluffy, little dog when she’s sick or helping her move when you should be watching the game - chances are, it’s that crazy little thing called love.
"8 seconds left in overtime, she's on your mind, she's on your mind..."
This line from "Over My Head" by The Fray pretty much sums it up. She comes into your thoughts constantly: “Amber would love this restaurant,” “I wonder what she’s doing?” or “What can I text her without sounding too sprung?” You want her to be thinking of you too, of course, so you make up little excuses to call and say hi. Thinking about her while hoping and praying she’s thinking about you? Yeah, you’re a goner.
She makes you want to be a better man.
The stakes are high when you meet a woman that blows your mind. You become more serious and focused about getting your act together and fixing your money situation or hitting the gym. Things that used to dominate your mind just aren't as important anymore. Yes, the Cubs just lost, (and they better get it together by next season, or you will personally be attending spring training to “strongly encourage” them,) but the sting isn’t quite as bad with her sitting next to you. Besides, her rubbing your shoulder might even make it worth it.
You just want her to be happy.
It’s not just about you anymore. When her boss is working her to death, you help her figure out what to say. If she’s sick, you’re at the store buying soup and crackers. After she gets in a fight with her sister - even though you may have no idea what the fight was really about - you distract her so she can get back to her usual self. Because when she’s happy and laughing and so alive… there’s just nothing else like it.
You can't wait to share the good news.
Your friends know her name, her dog’s name, how she likes her eggs... Because when you’re head over heels, you talk about her. A lot. You hold her hand in public and keep your arm around her so no one gets any funny ideas about moving in. She’s pretty special, after all - how exactly did you get her again? - and you want the world to know.
The girl behind the counter is smoking hot, but no one beats your lady's smile.
“I realized I was in love with Judy as I was checking out another girl,” explains Phil from Los Angeles. “The girl was exactly my type - tall, blonde and athletic - and all I could think about was Judy.” When every other woman pales in comparison, you barely remember your ex-girlfriend and you can’t picture your life without your sweetie - nor do you want to - that sounds a lot like love. And when it walks like love and talks like love, chances are…
You just can't resist anymore.
Believe me, you’ve tried. You swore after your last relationship that you were done - it's just not worth it - but all attempts to cease and desist have proven futile. There’s no such thing as too much of this woman; you want her there when you’re happy, sad, tired, sick. You know practically all there is to know about her, and most of it is pretty great. Yep, it's official. You, my friend, are in love.
It's your big night - your hot date. You're likely to be nervous, and for some, this means non-stop chattering. What issues should you guard against mentioning during your time together?