We’ve all heard the saying “forgive and forget,” but how many of us truly know what this means or how to do it? Forgiveness involves engaging with a complex series of emotions – anger, pain, frustration, and fear – which most of us try to avoid. Unfortunately, we can’t escape these feelings in life, at […]
When someone you care about ends a relationship, it can evoke feelings that range from disbelief to despair and everything in between. “How could this happen?” you think.
Sometimes life feels like a boating excursion on a sunny afternoon—smooth sailing, peaceful, and enjoyable. Other times it can feel more like a boxing match, where you are pummeled and down for the count. Everyone has times when they endure setbacks, disappointments, and failures. Psychologists and spiritual leaders agree that resilience is what makes the difference between […]
The road to a fulfilling, enduring relationship is almost always littered with a few attempts that turned out to be unfulfilling and unenduring. That’s what dating is all about—finding out if two people have the qualities and compatibility to sustain a relationship over the long haul. Sometimes you know for sure when it’s time to […]
There’s a wise saying about how to get over an ex — and begin anew. The essence of “un clavo quita otro clavo” (a nail takes out or replaces another nail) sounds good in principle. But does it work? Is the secret to getting over an ex for us to replace them? The “You must […]
It always hurts when someone breaks up with us, even if it happens after a single date. The more we perceived the person as being ‘right’ for us, the more we pictured ourselves with them, the more we allowed our expectations to build, the greater our heartache and disappointment can be. It’s natural to reflect […]
“He’s a really nice guy,” Vanessa said, “but I just don’t know if Ben and I are meant to be together. I’m thinking about breaking up with him, but I’m not sure. How do I decide?” It’s a question that plagues many singles: should I break up with my partner or stick it out a […]
As a breakup therapist, and author of the blog and book, “Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn A Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You,” I receive many questions about what to do before getting back out there. My clients and readers are male and female, of all ages and […]
As a relationship coach, it’s definitely not my job to publicly weigh in on celebrity disputes when I don’t even know the people involved. It is my job, however, to look for “teachable moments” and try to provide value to people that will help create more conscious, loving and productive relationships. This is one of […]
You’ve been dating someone special for several weeks. Or months. Or even years. How long you’ve been together isn’t as important as the fact that you thought you were happy. No wonder this breakup came as a surprise. And to make matters worse, their reasons for breaking up just don’t make sense. Like out of left […]
