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Dating in San Francisco and how to find something real

by eharmony Editorial Team - January 29, 2023

Where do I find the time to date? What if I meet someone and they live just one neighborhood too far away? Is it actually possible to form a genuine connection with someone online, let alone in real life here? Everyone knows that dating in San Francisco is unlike any city in the world. 

Although filled to the brim with diverse, successful, vibrant and socially active people, many San Francisco singles are ultimately left with one dating question at the end of the day: why is it this hard?

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according to Wallethub study


of the San Francisco population is single

according to the US Census Bureau


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What it’s like dating in San Francisco

The city is rich with singles and, as one of the cultural centers of the world, unlimited in its opportunities to meet up with a whole spectrum of interesting people daily. But this is also what can make dating in San Francisco challenging. Singles here can be chronically short of time, prone to Peter-Pan Syndrome, overwhelmed by the endless choice, the transience of connections and the notion of all those other possibilities around the next corner, that many don’t properly invest in present connections.  

However, things might not be as bad as some San Francisco singles believe. In fact, San Francisco actually ranks among the top five cities in the US for dating.1

Also, about 58% of the population is single.2And seeing as it’s the second most densely populated city in the country, dating here is often more of a question of sifting through your options than finding new ones.

Where to meet singles in San Francisco

The general feeling of experiencing life on a sprint often results in two approaches to dating in San Francisco: either focusing on only dating casually or rushing into a relationship.

Here are some places we think you can encounter grounded dating opportunities:

  • Lindy in the Park – An early afternoon swing dancing session held every Sunday in Golden Gate Park that has a more welcoming vibe than you’d find at a swing dance cafe.
  • Rickhouse – A whiskey bar with a hip and upmarket clientele that fills up on Fridays with professional San Francisco singles. Who knows where the right conversation may lead?
  • Trivia night – Get a few friends together or join a small team that could use a member. These nights have a very playful and conversational feel. High Treason and Laszlo have popular ones. 
  • Online dating – It is the San Francisco dating scene after all. Most busy professionals in the city take this option because it’s more convenient and efficient than braving traffic and local nightlife.

Find the right San Francisco singles for you with eharmony

The fact that someone finds love on eharmony every 14 minutes is all down to our specific approach to online dating, which is focused on fostering meaningful connections between authentic singles looking for a relationship.

We center our services around each of our members, supporting and guiding you throughout your journey of dating in San Francisco. Here are some of the features that help us do that.

Spend your time connecting, not swiping

We use a compatibility-based matching algorithm at eharmony. This is based on four distinct personality traits: character, communication style, what drives you and how you organize your life. Informed by your Personality Profile, over 20 years in the industry, the vast compatibility data we’ve accumulated and our team of relationship experts, the result is a curated list of highly viable San Francisco singles. 

Very large user base of respectful, open-minded singles

Our reputation and track record in the industry means we have a very large and diverse membership base, including a wealth of daters in the San Francisco area.

Profiles that don’t waste your time

Our profiles are information-rich and text-light. At a glance, you get a breakdown of your shared compatibility, interests in common, professional and lifestyle information and even the passions and sentiments that fill their lives. 

Dating in San Francisco your way

The matching algorithm is only the first step. You’re still very much in control of your dating experience on eharmony. You can drill down on your Match List to find singles that more closely fit your dating checklist, including their proximity, education, height, income level, desire for children, shared interests and a whole lot more.

This is how eharmony is making dating a more fulfilling and successful experience in San Francisco.

Don’t leave your heart here, find someone to share it with

While singles here may be pressed for time and occasionally reluctant to grow up, it’s easy to see that people dating in San Francisco are still incredibly fortunate to be in one of the most diversely populated and socially vibrant places in the world.

It’s just a matter of seeing through all the unsuitable singles cluttering up the dating scene and finding that one special person that’s always been there, waiting for you. And eharmony can help with just that. Sign up today.

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  1. According to a WalletHub study  

  2. According to the US Census Bureau