I love getting inspiration from the community on Advice. I was just reading several comments about what to do when a guy stops calling and appears to lose interest. I don’t believe that acts of manipulation, like telling him you are dating someone else, is the way to go. I also don’t believe that you should sit around and try to analyze what went wrong, or what you may have said that pushed him away, or even make excuses for him (he does get really busy at work!). A wise person once told me (thank you Mr. Langston) that if a guy wants to be with you, he will move mountains to make it happen. He will jump through hoops to spend time with you and wild horses couldn’t keep him away … you get the drift.
I believe this to be true. If a guy is interested in you, he will call. He won’t pull any disappearing acts or suddenly get extremely busy at work. There is always time to make a quick phone call or send a text message.
The bottom line is: He will make the time for you if he is into you.
There are so many reasons people become disinterested in a potential love match. You could assume and speculate all day long, but I think it’s so much better to just move on to the next romantic adventure.
Chances are it may have absolutely nothing to do with you (and even if it does, don’t sweat it). Do not waste your time and energy on a failed dating experience. Further, don’t waste your time on a guy who didn’t have the character or courage to tell you he just didn’t think it would work out, for whatever reason. When a guy goes poof — say good riddance, baby.
Do you agree? Have friends that psychoanalyze what may have gone wrong on their dates? Would love to hear about it and thank you for all of your great comments on my other posts!