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4/20 Survey 2020: Cannabis and Dating

Dating & Relationship Trends  |  April 20, 2020

Ahead of 4/20 2020, eharmony surveyed Americans to better understand if using cannabis would be a deal-breaker for daters.

Overall Americans are more likely to say they’d rather date someone who doesn’t smoke pot than who does, but the majority say it’s not a problem.  While 58% of Americans would date someone regardless of their marijuana use, it would have some negative impact on 42% of Americans. 

Impact of Marijuana in relationships


I find it positive if my potential partner uses marijuana


“His/her high standards of order and cleanliness”


It has no effect on me if my potential partner uses marijuana

  • Three in five Americans (58%) say that knowing that a potential partner used marijuana would be okay – 17% say it’d be a positive and 41% say no impact.
  • Men (61%) 21-34 (68%) are most likely to be okay with it.   
  • Over a quarter (28%) of 21–34-year-olds would be positively impacted by a potential partner using marijuana and 38% believe it could make a date more fun. 
  • Almost a third (30%) of men believe marijuana would make intimacy with a partner more enjoyable.


Three in five Americans would be upset if their date showed up stoned. 

  • Don’t show up to you date on 4/20 stoned – most Americans wouldn’t be happy.
  • Two in five (40%) for both ages 21-34 and 35-54 believe feeling more relaxed with their partner is a reason to use marijuana.
  • Respondents say those who use marijuana recreationally are laid back (43%) and fun partners (25%). 


The following results are from a nationally representative survey of 1290 U.S. adults (aged 21+). The survey was conducted by YouGov from March 29-30, 2021. The margin of error is +/-2.7%.