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Holiday Gifting Trends 2021

Dating & Relationship Trends  |  December 1, 2021

In a world filled with unlimited holiday gift guides for your fresh relationship, long-term partner, and even the person you’re not official with yet, narrowing down the perfect gift can seem daunting. So, what are Americans really shopping for this season? What are they *secretly* hoping for from their holiday boo? And how much are they willing to dish out on gifts? eharmony surveyed Americans ahead of the 2021 holiday season to find out. 

How much are we spending for gifts?

Gay couple going shopping for christmas gifts.


The Majority of Americans (59%) will spend $101+ on their partner’s gift this holiday season

45% of Millennials set a budget with their significant other so they spend same amount

Shift towards experiences

58% of Americans would rather spend money on experiences for each other than buy and receive gifts. 82% of Gen Z would rather gift an experience compared to just 52% of Millennials. 43% of Boomers are likely getting their partner clothing and/or jewelry.

Ditch the wishlist


57% of Americans prefer to be surprised instead of exchange gift requests with their partner

White lies

Around 2 in 5 people in a relationship have lied to their significant other about how much they’ve spent on their holiday gift. Arise in upcycling: 23% of Americans know their partner regifted their gift.


eharmony with Harris Interactive interviewed a nationally representative sample of 1,200 respondents living in the United States and Canada in November 2021.