eHarmony Success in Four Steps


We love receiving your comments. Your calls, emails, posts on the eHarmony Advice community, posts on our Facebook page, and any other feedback you can send our way is very helpful. By reading and listening to your comments and suggestions we learn what works and what doesn’t. Why do some users have more profile activity than others? Why do some users seem to find their perfect partner earlier in the experience? It’s all part of the process of building a more helpful and effective service.

Although there is no perfect formula for finding love on any dating site, I do want to share some trends we’ve uncovered for users who get above-average profile activity, more communication and seem to find that special somebody much earlier in the process.

If you want to really increase your chances for success on eHarmony, we recommend doing the following:

1. You need photos.
You might be surprised to learn that nearly 35% of users on eHarmony don’t upload a photo. We know that users who have at least one photo increase their chances of finding someone by almost 100%. (Seriously!)

We’ve found that users who have at least three great photos (what defines a great photo?) almost always meet someone they want to get to know better.

2. Answer Profile Questions, but be yourself.
This seems like a given right? Well, if you’ve been on eHarmony you’ve most likely come across profiles that have very little substance to them. We know for a fact that users who answer at least five profile questions and answer them in a more one-to-one conversational tone see an increase in both received “Smiles” and incoming messages from their matches.

We’re working to revise some of the profile questions to make them more fun to answer and more interesting to read.

3. Don’t be shy about sending a Smile to a match.
Smiles are just a fun way of saying “Hi,” and helping to break the ice with your matches. We’ve found that users who send smiles to their matches tend to end up meeting someone much faster than users who don’t.

4. Consider expanding your match distance settings.
We all hope that our prince or princess is right down the street, but typically you meet matches who are not within your immediate location. This is especially true if you live in more suburban and rural areas.

Try expanding your distance settings ( and you’ll immediately start receiving new matches. We recommend setting your distance settings to more than 120 miles from you.

You may think, “Who wants to date someone who lives 120 miles away?” but look at it this way. If there is a person who is deeply compatible with you, is ready for a committed relationship, and lives 101 miles away, don’t you want to know it? Isn’t that distance something that you can overcome on your way to a long-term relationship? We’ve seen it happen thousands of times.

So there you have it. The four most important things you can do right now to improve your chances for finding that special someone. We’ll continue to share our findings and help you use eHarmony more effectively.

Be yourself, be honest and have fun! The world can literally be at your fingertips.

If this article gave you the confidence to find your match, try eharmony today!

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