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3 Tips to Surround Yourself with Positive People

By Carol Whitaker, author of The Secret to Manifesting the Life & Body of Your Dreams.

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Do some people just drain the life out of you? You know, energy suckers? Believe it or not, they are direct reflections of the limiting beliefs you have about yourself. They are simply mirroring back to you the insecurities which they sense coming from you! Luckily you can change who is drawn to you and how people interact with you by changing the way you think and feel about yourself.

To improve the relationships in your life, you need to improve your self-image first. We all give off energy, commonly referred to as “vibes.” When you have a low self-image you give off negative vibes, and when you have a high self-perception you give off feel-good vibes.

The vibes we give off attract “like vibes” to us. Negative thoughts and feelings about yourself will draw more negative people and experiences to you, thus validating your undesirable feelings!

To have positive people in your life, you must first be positive about yourself and your life as it is now. Being optimistic gives you a brighter outlook and more gratitude for what you have, and that radiates higher energy, which naturally attracts positive people, circumstances and events to you.

The following three tips are powerful ways to attract positive people to you.

Believe in yourself. People can sense if you believe in yourself or not. If you don’t believe in yourself, then you will find that you attract others who struggle with believing in themselves too. Believe in all that you are by accepting yourself for who you are, just as you are. Acknowledge your strengths, gifts and talents, physical beauty and attributes. Be kind to yourself on a daily basis by having positive self-talk. When you believe in yourself, you will be able to honor your truth and follow your heart, which will attract upbeat people to you.

Forgive freely. Holding resentment towards yourself or others is negative energy, and will attract negative people and experiences to you. Forgive yourself for the mistakes you’ve made. Forgive others who have hurt or betrayed you, or caused you emotional pain. Realize that all things happen for a reason; each life experience has helped you become who you are today. We all stumble and fall and have failures, but it’s through those times that we learn and grow. Without knowing failure you can’t enjoy success. Difficult life lessons are there to help you become the intricate and beautiful person that you were meant to be, so learn from them and then let the negative memories go. The more you forgive, the more you will shift up to a higher energy which will attract supportive and loving people into your life.

Like attracts like. Remember that “like always attracts like”— it’s a universal law. To have positive experiences in your life you need to be positive about you, and appreciate life lessons learned from your past and your current conditions. When you are in a positive mindset you will attract likeness to you. Embrace relationships that empower, inspire and motivate you to be your best, and likewise do the same for others in return. Make it a habit to celebrate other peoples’ success, as well as your own. Surround yourself with positive people who believe in your dreams and cheer you on. The more you stay focused on being positive, the more positive people you will have in your life.

It is highly rewarding to be surrounded with positive people; however, it takes time and practice to be consciously aware of your thoughts and shift them from negative to positive. When negative thoughts come to mind just let them go and replace them with self-affirming, positive thoughts that support your heart’s desires. Make it a daily practice to love and believe in you. The more you see yourself for that which you are—a magnificent person—the more you will indeed draw more loving, supportive people to you.

carol whitakerCarol Whitaker is the author of the acclaimed book Ridiculously Happy! The Secret to Manifesting the Life & Body of Your Dreams.  Carol is a media expert, lifestyle fitness & life coach, motivational speaker, and mentor. Carol is a happily married mother of three and is an avid equestrian. Connect with Carol on LinkedIn and Facebook to receive her health, happiness and fitness tips, and by following her on Twitter. Visit CarolWhitaker.com and learn to unleash your inner powers to live a ridiculously happy life!


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