Are you working too hard to earn your man’s love? Read on to discover how your efforts to get more attention from your man might be backfiring…and what to do instead to inspire his devotion.
I spent many sad years vying for a man’s interest, time, and attention. I’d knock myself out trying to catch a particular man’s eye; and then, if he paid attention to me, I would suddenly feel in complete fear of losing him. So I’d frantically try to keep this from happening by checking up on him, doing things for him, trying to change myself for him – anything to keep me from going away.
And you know what happened? That’s right – I’d lose him anyway! It took a lot of pain and tears to convince myself I’d had enough. And that’s when I started to learn what really makes a man shower you with love…
TURN THE FOCUS ON YOU AND HE WILL, TOO
Working to get and keep a man’s attention doesn’t work. That’s because a man doesn’t fall in love by how much you give him or do for him – he falls in love because of how much he does for YOU.
A man wants to please you not just because it makes you happy, but because he feels like he can CONTRIBUTE to your life in a positive way. Men need this, and if you’re the one who is always doing, then guess what? You’re doing the man’s job. And it turns him off. Which brings me to…
BE YOUR MOST FEMININE SELF AND MAKE HIM THE BEST MAN HE CAN BE
There’s something very important you need to understand if you want to feel completely adored in a relationship. Men are drawn to us because of our feminine, feeling nature. Men THRIVE on this – it’s how we complement his doing, masculine nature. When you are being your natural, alluring, feminine self, he feels inspired to shower you with love and devotion.
But this is not what we let ourselves be – especially not if we’re used to being independent, go-getters in the rest of our lives. Being in your masculine – or boy – energy works wonders in your career. But NOT in your love life. A man will never fall in love with you if you are not sharing your feminine self with him. What does this mean? It means it’s time to let the womanly, feminine, feeling, sensuous being that you are come out and play!
NOURISH YOUR LIFE OUTSIDE HIM AND BECOME EVEN MORE ATTRACTIVE
When we are especially attracted to a man, we get blinders. Suddenly, everything we used to love before him gets pushed to the side. In order to counteract your urge to go into “doing” mode for him, you need to make it a point to experience as much of your feeling self as you can. Anything that puts you in touch with your sensual self works – dance classes, massages, spending time in nature, even taking a long bath.
Remember, men are fascinated by women because we feel things in ways they can’t. In fact, a man yearns to experience his feeling side through you. When he sees that you’re able to fully experience whatever you’re doing in the moment – whether it’s letting yourself cry during a movie or swooning over a piece of chocolate cake – he’s mesmerized. So never feel silly about expressing those feelings. When you make yourself the priority (instead of him) and commit yourself to your passions, he’ll know he found a woman he can love forever.
Rori teaches women how to break out of the patterns that have been keeping them from truly connecting with a man’s heart so that they can experience deep intimacy. To learn specific ways you can step out of the “doing” role in your relationship and into the more feminine energy “feeling” role that is so alluring and magnetic to a man, subscribe to Rori’s free e-newsletter. You’ll discover even more effortless ways to let a man know he’s lucky to have you.