Joy and Jamie
Jamie and I had both suffered the loss of failed marriages. We both dealt with loneliness and the responsibilities of being single parents. As single parents our responsibility to our children far outweighed our need for companionship for a time. As the divorce proceedings finalized, we both felt a deep need to reclaim our desire for companionship. Neither one of us had trouble meeting people, but the types of people we met we knew were not the kind of people we should invite into our lives and into our children’s lives. The process of weeding out the wrong people for us was difficult.
We both stumbled onto eHarmony based on others we knew who had been using the system. Neither one of us knew of a success story, so we went into this adventure with not a whole lot of hope. I even refused to include a picture for people to view because I didn’t know how long I was planning on being a part of the system. I wanted someone who accepted my children and me first before looking at a picture of me. Jamie included a picture for later viewing with him and his daughter. He too wanted someone who would accept him along with his daughter.
One afternoon I received the match and I proceeded to initiate communication. I believe he was the second one I took the chance with communication. I was drawn to him through his profile. Every question that came through in the initial stages was so exciting. I looked forward every day to the new message sent. Neither one of us had seen a picture of one another so we decided to exchange e-mails so we could e-mail our pictures to each other. The day came when we finally got a chance to see each other’s pictures. We opened the e-mails with our hands over our eyes, slowly peeking through our fingers to reveal the person on the other end of our e-mails. We were BOTH pleasantly surprised! We then exchanged pictures of the children and moved forward to phone conversations. We also enjoyed text messaging as well. We kept each other very close even though we had never met. I knew that Jamie and I had a connection that I had never had with any other person.
We decided to meet each other. The day of the meeting was filled with anxiousness. I was so worried about the physical chemistry. Our emotional connection was so deep that it would have been devastating if the physical connection wasn’t there. Jamie finally came to the front door and as soon as I opened it, we both said “Thank God!” During dinner, Jamie just kept thinking about when the time would be appropriate to kiss me. He didn’t do it during dinner, but he planted one on me as soon as he could when we got back to my house. We talked for hours that night and he drove back to Maryland to be at work the next day.
We continued on with the driving for a few weeks. The more we saw of each other the more we knew it was right. The children met and really enjoyed each other. I have 3 children (6, 4,and 3 years old). Jamie has one child who is 4 years old. Our children have responded very well to both of us. May 8th Jamie asked my parents for my hand in Marriage. Jamie Proposed May 15th.
By August 12th we were married! Jamie moved into an apartment in Pennsylvania prior to the wedding. He also agreed that it would be easier for him and Paige to move verses me and my 3 kids to move. My parents live down the street so babysitting is pretty convenient! The day of the wedding was amazing! The wedding included all 4 kids! 2 flower girls and 2 ring bearers or “ring boys” as my son called it. My sister and his brother served as Matron of Honor and Best Man. We decided to add to the Wedding service a Child Dedication and a Family Dedication. Thank you so much for listening to our story and being a part of the most amazing part of our lives and our children’s lives. We recommend eHarmony to everyone!!Joy and Jamie, (Carena, Dominic, Paige and Jacob too!)