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Adam and Sarah

Athens, GA

Sarah and I started dating officially on September 24, 2008 -- roughly a month and a half after we were matched.

After exchanging questions and answers and using Open Communication on eHarmony, we decided to IM for several days.  Our first phone call was at the end of August 2008, and admittedly, we broke one of the eHarmony "suggestions" for our first phone call.  I'll never forget that call because it was the single longest phone call I've ever had -- eight hours!!!  I know y'all encourage people to keep their first conversations on the phone short, but we completely blew that one out of the water and talked all night long!!  It was very, very cool to feel an instant connection with someone I hadn't even met in person yet.  We continued to talk on the phone for several days--for several hours each day.  Surprisingly, neither one of us was itching to get off the phone even after spending so much time on the phone together.

About a week and a half after our first phone call, I worked up the courage to ask Sarah out on our first date, which was on September 6, 2008.  To both of our surprise, our first date wasn't the greatest.  For some reason, we both felt like that "spark" that we'd felt talking through eHarmony and then subsequently on the phone wasn't there that night.  Oddly enough, neither of us could put our finger on why the spark wasn't there that night. . .it just wasn't.

The next night, Sarah called me and said that she wanted us to stay in touch, but that she thought we should just pursue friendship at that point.  I acted calm, cool, and collected on the phone and said I understood and that that was fine.  Inside, though, I was disappointed.  I took the following day off from work because I was so disappointed, in fact.  I just knew that the handful of my colleagues that knew about our first date would be rushing up to ask me how it went; and understandably, I wasn't in the mood to talk about it.

Two nights after she had called me to say, "let's just be friends", she sent me a text message saying that she missed talking to me.  So, I called her later that night and we talked for about an hour.  Over the course of the next two weeks, we decided to go on several "non-dates", and we discovered that maybe the awkwardness of our first date had something to do with the pressure of it being a first date.  Well, we quickly realized on our "non-dates" that we were exactly the people that each of us thought we were based on our conversations online and on the phone!!

On September 24, 2008, while we were talking on the phone, I finally worked up the courage to ask her to be my girlfriend and she said yes!  The rest, as they say, is history!

We were engaged on May 22, 2009.  I proposed on a flight from Atlanta to New York--over the PA system and all!!  She said YES!!!!  (Although, I was prepared to make a deal with the captain for him to keep circling JFK Airport until she said yes so I'm glad I didn't have to make a plane full of people mad at me!!)  It was so cool to have a plane full of passengers cheering our engagement!!  The flight attendants gave us a bottle of wine and a complimentary drink on the plane right after we got engaged.  They also posed for pictures with us after we landed in New York, which are some of my most favorite pictures of Sarah and me to date.  We're saving the bottle of wine we were given on the plane -- for our first anniversary, perhaps??

It's funny, people might think the "29 dimensions of compatibility" that eHarmony uses to match couples is a marketing gimmick.  Sarah and I know, however, that the service you are providing really does pave the way for relationship success stories.  This relatively early in a relationship, it's so incredibly cool to be able to finish each other's sentences or know what the other person is thinking without them even having to say a word.

Thank you, eHarmony, for helping us find the love of our lives!! 

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