Karen and Bob
What’s wrong with him? After getting to know Bob, I really did ask myself this. I was thoroughly enjoying our courtship but still looking for “flags.” We both had one previous marriage and have children of similar ages. We were proceeding carefully. A couple of weeks into our relationship Bob said he had a question and he wanted me to be honest in answering, of course. He wanted to know the same thing I had been thinking about. Are you being yourself? Is this real? Are you hiding anything? Am I dreaming? Is this a fairy tale? What is wrong with you because I don’t see it?! This has been an unbelievable match from the start.
I had been divorced for 3 years and had taken time to get myself together and settle my life. I had my religious faith and support of friends and family but something was missing in my life. I felt good about everything except the lack of companionship and a true relationship. Through encouragement of my 19 year old daughter, I joined eHarmony and matched with Bob in September 2008. After my first date with Bob, I came home to see my daughter sitting on the couch. She said, “Mom you look beautiful.” She wasn’t talking about my hair, my clothes or my makeup. It was the “glow” that I had. I knew I was thinking logically and proceeding cautiously (as is my nature) but couldn’t shake the feeling of “wow.” As our relationship moved forward, I learned that Bob had had the same kind of feelings and had similar conversations. It has been amazing to see the compatibility unfold.
We are not perfect, neither of us, and we do recognize this. When we have said to each other, “What’s wrong with you?” we are really just talking about the “flags” that surface in a relationship and we haven’t found any. Although we have our faults, our compatibility gives us the acceptance of those little faults and quirks that we may have some of them are the reasons that we love each other.
As a 48 year old (and Bob is 52) we have never enjoyed love as much as this. I have never laughed as much and enjoyed the company of one person as deeply as this. The true chemistry, “soul mate” and compatibility must be the reasons. I think perhaps my previous relationships we just practice for this one that will last forever.
Bob calls me his Princess and I know I have met my PC (Prince Charming). I even received a real glass slipper from him!