Elaine and Ned
Ned and I were matched through eHarmony and by the end of the day, we had completed the entire process and had exchanged personal email addresses and phone numbers. Neither one of us will ever forget that special day and later on after we had met and had the opportunity to explore our feelings, we both realized there had been something larger than either one of us at work that day.
We both were seeing other people and at first we were content to email and then to have long meaningful conversations on the phone. We did not actually meet until June 6 and spent a wonderful weekend together in a small town in southern New York.
By that time, we felt like old friends and meeting was a delight. I think I should tell you that we are not 25, but in our middle 60’s and even though we had gone on eHarmony hoping for an opportunity to find a soul mate, we both were under no allusions about the odds of that happening. He had been divorced for several years after a marriage of 30+ years and I had been a widow for six years after being married to a wonderful man. Neither one of us wanted to spend our twilight years alone and thus our foray into eHarmony.
After our first meeting, we continued our phone calls and then had a second meeting in the Poconos where Ned lived. That weekend we decided to go exclusive and as they say, the rest is history. There were some bumps along the way, but nothing that good communication and a special love that grew every time we were together could not overcome. It was not easy having a long distance relationship…I lived in Buffalo, NY and he lived in the Poconos. There were only a couple of weekends we were not together and we put a lot of miles on both cars for over a year. Finally his house sold and he was able to move to New York and on August 15 almost 16 months after we were matched, we were married in the backyard of my house with many friends and family in attendance. It was a magic night!
One thing I need to explain is “that something larger” at work when we met. In 2006, I lost my beautiful 33 year old daughter to cancer and one of her major concerns was that I would become a recluse and just bury myself in my grief. One reason why I went on eHarmony was because of a promise to her. Her husband’s name was Ned and we firmly believe she sent my Ned to me, because the first thing that caught my eye on that early morning of April 16 was his name and then his beautiful smiling face. I know she sent me someone I would recognize as coming from her. This poem was our toast to each other.
In my heart there lives a dream
Of my one true soul mate
Of lingering kisses and
Of holding hand
Made for two
Of a deep and
In my heart there lived a dream
And in your eyes
In your arms
My every dream
Comes so wonderfully true
Forever and always
I love you
So that is our story and we thank you from the bottom of our heart for leading us to each other.