Erin and Marty
Internet dating, something I said I would never do. Then came the night I was sitting home alone thinking to myself, “I could be having dinner with someone right now, having at the very least, a decent evening and yet I am sitting home ALONE!” I reluctantly sat down at my computer and went to the eHarmony website after seeing the commercial for the Free Weekend. After 2 ½ hours of filling out my profile and making sure I said everything just right, I clicked on the “match now” button and received a whopping 6 matches! Six matches, that’s it?! Out of 12 million members, they could only find 6 people with whom I might have something in common? My disappointment grew when I began to view my six matches only to find out that one of them was my best friend’s brother that I have known since the 9th grade. Oh my gosh!! Where had I gone wrong in my profile? I immediately turned off my computer sure that I had made a huge mistake.
The next morning I called eHarmony and asked to cancel my subscription. The lady on the other end of the phone politely said, “Mam, maybe you should give it a bit more time. After all, you have only been a member for 6 hours now.” I wish I knew who she was because I owe her a debt of gratitude. Within hours, I was matched with a man who lived 4 states away. I had told myself I would not take long-distance matches but there was just something about this one. Everything he had said in his profile struck a chord within me and I just had to know more about him. This was his 3rd time subscribing to eHarmony and he had just signed up again a few days prior.
We went through guided communication which we found to be an exceptional process. It gave me such insight into the person he was and gave me the opportunity to really share myself in a meaningful way without any pretenses. We quickly made it to open communication and wrote to each other almost every hour, literally. We shared so much with each other in our emails and with every word we found a deeper connection. I can honestly say that from the minute I heard his voice I had a feeling this was something special. Our first night we spoke for over 3 hours and every night thereafter we spent many hours on the phone. It was uncanny how much we had in common and how our lives had paralleled each other in many ways. He is a long-haul truck driver and had been in my city many times. He had shopped at the very grocery store that I frequent and had been in town only 2 weeks before we met. Unbelievable that our paths could have crossed so many times before and yet it took eHarmony to bring us together. It became apparent that there was something magical to this eHarmony thing. We had both been so reluctant that this would actually lead us to the love or our life and yet with each passing day and each conversation our doubt was overshadowed by the amazing, inexplicable connection that we were experiencing. He put it well when he said, “I have never connected with anyone on such a cellular level in my life.” Keep in mind we had not physically met yet
We literally spoke no less than 3 to 4 hours a night for two weeks. Our first meeting was something that I can’t even put into words. It was nerve wracking and peaceful at the same time. It was by far the most romantic moment of my life. We just fit so well in each other’s arms and I can honestly say that upon our first kiss I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this man. The level of connection that we have experienced cannot be explained.
Both of us have been married previously and we knew that the connection we had with each other was so very different than we had experienced before. I knew I had never loved anyone like I love this man. We had such a resolve about the fact that we were made for each other. We do not believe that we could have developed such a deep relationship without the eHarmony process. It would have taken us years to get to the level we are at without the in-depth matching process and the guided communication. I will forever be grateful to the lady who encouraged me to be a bit more patient and not give up after 6 matches and 6 hours. In addition, our children have been so richly blessed by this new family that we are putting together. Thank you eHarmony for helping us to find the “Love of our Lives” and helping to put together a step-family that shares more love than some biological families. How richly we have been blessed by your work.