Gretchen and Joshua
Josh and I actually met 11 years ago while living in the same residence hall a floor apart at Whitworth College in Spokane, WA (now Whitworth University). We both had been on eHarmony on and off for a couple years, but had never been matched up. This last summer, we were both on again with him in Spokane working as a Resident Director in the residence hall where we had met, and me in Seattle working at a children’s hospital. After returning from a wedding in Spokane, I logged into my account and found a familiar face in my matches.
I totally thought I was connecting with an old acquaintance, and turned him into my dating coach, having him work as my male adviser to refine my profile. Truth was, reading through his profile, he was precisely the guy I was looking for, but I looked at him with “friend” eyes and with the mentality that Spokane was entirely too far away (thank goodness for flexible matches!). He was in town for the fourth of July to visit family and we worked our schedules to meet up for coffee, which turned into a 3 hour dinner as we shared the last five years of our lives since we had last seen each other at the seminary where he got his master’s. We continued to email and spend time together when he was in Seattle. A few weeks later, the night before his 30th birthday, I took him out for dinner to celebrate and we agreed we were interested in pursuing a relationship, even from a distance. We got to know Interstate 90 and short Horizon Air flights quite well over the next six months, and after a trip to the Bay Area and Austin, TX together, realized we really we’re perfectly matched.
Our first kiss was on the suspension bridge in Spokane; our first hypothetical discussion about marriage started as we were driving across the Golden Gate Bridge. Needless to say, we’ve grown an affinity for bridges. A perfect 6 month anniversary celebration New Year’s Eve turned into a surprise engagement overlooking the I-90 Bridge that had been well traveled between us. He truly thought of every last detail as he wove a day of our past, present and future together (seriously, the date had a theme and I had no clue) culminating in a park overlooking the bridge. As we stood there, he asked me how the bridge played into the theme and I responded my past and present were on this side of the bridge (in Seattle) and our future possibly was on the other side of the bridge (we had already talked about where we might live if we ever got engaged figuring Spokane made the most sense for our future). After a simple dance in the park with his iPod held up to both our ears so we could hear The Weepies, “Somebody Loved” he informed me that night would also have been his grandparents’ 63rd wedding anniversary and dropped down to one knee. I started sobbing as he asked me to do him the honor of becoming his wife. As we’ve discovered over the last six months and even now as we’re planning our wedding, we are marrying our best friends in each other. We laugh over the fact that after 3 years attending the same college, we just weren’t ready for each other quite yet. We’re grateful that our college selves didn’t see it, but our 30 year old selves discovered a perfect match.