Terry and Charles
I have always believed that communication is the key to a great relationship, and had found someone who shared my philosophy and was honest, open and funny. I would start calls to Terry at 10:00 pm when my house had quieted down and we would talk until 2 or 3 in the morning about…everything. Kids, exes, jobs, eHarmony matchups, religion, politics, likes, dislikes, irritations and passions. We talked 4-5 hours a night, EVERY night, and I felt I knew her better than people I had known for years. We would talk and then I would crash and get up for work in 4 hours.
Instead of dragging into work, I felt energized, and I continue to lead the team in sales. My break from work was the occasional text to and from Terry to keep me up. Terry - she was fresh, honest, open, funny and wonderfully positive, in spite of having been through so much personal heartache and health issues. I thought I knew where the relationship was going, but I was not sure how she felt and did not want her to feel obligated into diving into a relationship if she was perfectly content to be a good friend and tour guide.
I threw in the potential breakup question before I got in any deeper one night at 1:30 AM on a rip-rousing conversation on exes. During a lull in the conversation, I blurted out, “You seem like a really great person, but I have to tell you, I have never liked blondes.” Without missing a beat to a question I am sure she had never heard before, Terry replied, “That’s OK. I will either change my hair color, or change your mind. Deal?”
There is really no negative answer you can give to a reply like that. No one ever knows what is to come, but it is always easier to face with someone to watch your back, follow your lead and hold your hand through the scary parts. And that is exactly what I found, thanks to eHarmony.