Carina and Doojin
It was the year 2004; I pretty much decided to stay single for the rest of my life when a colleague mentioned that I should try internet dating. I was very skeptical since I never thought of finding the love of your life through the internet. In the past, I paid dating agencies and had no luck. But I believe around Thanksgiving, it was raining outside and I had a couple of hours of downtime at work so I logged onto a dating website, eHarmony. Next thing I knew I was on my way filling out the personality profile. It took me a couple of hours to finish the questions and at the end, paid for 3 month membership. Immediately, the next day, my blackberry phone went off informing me of the matches. And for the next week or so, I would get at least 5 matches a day. I communicated with couple of them here and there through email but it was all brief.
The beginning of December I was matched with DJ. There was no picture, only that he was just a physician. From reading his profile, it seemed like he was laid back, easy going, down-to-earth personality with a warm, sincere heart. It seemed that we shared similar values and interest but what intrigued me was the question where you list something only your closest friend would know and he put initials D.J. I wanted to know what that stood for. I sent him a message and a couple of days went by and I didn’t hear from him. Meanwhile, I was communicating with another match and had set a date to meet him. I think on December 6, I received an email from D.J. His email was very eloquent, humorous and apologized why he didn’t get back to me sooner. He was in Arizona for a conference and just came back into town. Later that night the phone rang. It was D.J. Immediately, we struck up an endless conversation that lasted 2 hours. We talked on the phone for the next two nights for hours and he asked me out on our first date.
I drove to the front of his apartment where he was waiting for me outside. I stepped out and in the dark street lights, I saw his glimmering smile. He was just about my height and looked much cuter in person than in the picture. We sat down at the sushi bar where it was pretty lit inside and now there’s no escaping of our imperfections. But at that moment, I knew he was the one. We talked and ate for at least 2 hours and headed for home around 11pm. Halfway home, I got a flat tire. I called the car service and waited in the car when ironically my cell rang. It was D.J. checking to see if I got home safely. He volunteered to come and be with me but I told him to go to sleep. Nothing, not even a flat tire was going to ruin this evening and I knew from that moment on that I would spend the rest of my life with him. Finally, my prayers have been answered.
The next day there was a delivery for me at work. It was a dozen of my favorite flowers Casablanca lilies beautifully arranged with a card inside from D.J., simply saying he really enjoyed our date. He blew me away, how did he know about my favorite flowers? That’s right, he remembered in one of our phone conversations of favorite colors, etc. That was very impressive. He was listening.
For the next month it was effortless, blissful and just perfect. We saw each other almost every other day. For a man who wasn’t planning to get married until five years later, he asked me to marry him a year later on March 07, 2006. He definitely surprised me by having his co-worker call me to tell me that he broke his arm and that I needed to come to the hospital right away. At the time, I was in cosmetology school and was in the middle of hair coloring. I ran out to the parking lot with dripping wet hair when he jumped out from the back of my car with a bouquet of Casablanca lilies. At first I was confused since I was thinking he should be at the hospital. Then it made sense as he got on his knees and proposed. I cried.
eHarmony, did you know that 2006 is the best time for weddings. It is the most prosperous and luckiest year for marriages. In the Asian culture, when an oldest son marries the youngest daughter, then they are known to compliment each other, balance and have lot of fun together. Well, D.J. is the oldest of the three sons and I am the youngest of four children. I know that he is my soul mate.