Shay and Byron
After experiencing a few brief and disappointing relationships, I was determined to figure out my pitfalls. I embarked on an experiment, which involved dating 100 men in nine months and reading over 50 relationship books. My goal was to secure knowledge on the dos and don’ts of dating and acquiring love. I learned from my research that women send out signals turning men off and ultimately pushing them away.
I experienced the common challenges many single woman experiences in dating but with the added struggle of single motherhood. Although I was an expert, who had helped many others, a year ago, I still hadn’t met a compatible man of substance and quality. That changed one day last October. A friend of mine and I were having a talk about our quest to secure true undying affection when she told me about a gentleman she’d met on eHarmony. Three years ago she became a fan of the site since being drawn to the free personality profile. I often advised my fans of joining online dating sites such as eHarmony and favored eHarmony in particular because of the compatibility questionnaire.
Although, I had been on eHarmony’s site before, I was skeptical of giving online dating another chance. My friend pushed me to try eHarmony. A month after activating my subscription, I met the man of my dreams just four hours before my subscription was to end. I fast tracked him, which is something I was usually against and he instantly responded. We made contact right away and it must have been fate.
He is my best friend and my soul mate. He is everything I asked for in a mate and treats me like a queen. He has even committed himself to my two children. He also has two children of his own and refers to all five of us as his family. Considering the journey I have had in the last few years, his arrival was timely and maybe even Heaven sent. There are so many negative images of African American men on TV and we do not see many African American couples that have met online and married. There is a stigma in the African American community about online dating and I would like to let the world know that eHarmony was a blessing to my children and me. It is my hope that more single women with children, single African American women and single people desiring true love will be more open to unconventional methods of finding their soul mate such as joining eHarmony.