Your ‘About Me’ page is your first impression. It’s the place where your matches first get to know you and decide if they want to communicate. Here’s some great tips for making it interesting and effective!
PART 1 of 2
Once you have reviewed your Matching Preferences to ensure they allow you to receive as many highly-compatible matches as possible, the next step in finding your Soul Mate is to review your matches’ profiles and begin communicating!
Keep in mind it takes “two to communicate.” If you’re interested in match and would like to know them better, they must also want to communicate with you, and the purpose of your About Me page is to inspire matches to want to do so!
So you can experience the best rate of communication possible, I’ll be sharing information and suggestions which can help you create an About Me page that allows your matches to get a sense of you as a unique individual and promote communication.
So that each topic can be given ample attention, this article has been divided into two parts. In Part 1, I’ll provide suggestions on how to approach your About Me page, as well as tips on how to create meaningful answers and use the space available wisely.
(For help in setting your Matching Preferences, you are encouraged to access these articles: eHarmony and the Art of Match Settings: Distance, and eHarmony and the Art of Match Settings: Personal Preferences.
HOW TO APPROACH YOUR ABOUT ME PAGE
When creating your About Me page, always keep in mind its purpose : To encourage matches to communicate with you. Not only what you share but how you share about yourself is important. The more conversational you can make your answers; the more likely your matches will feel you are speaking to them and begin to feel a connection with you.
Sometimes it helps to pretend you’re having a cup of coffee with a match who’s asking these questions. Most likely you’d answer in sentence form and not with one or two words; right? Also, anticipating that a general comment may need an example or explanation, you’ll most likely want to provide one.
For example, when answering Question 1 — What are you most passionate about? — if you answer, “It’s important to me to live life to the fullest,” that’s grand, but explain why it’s important and what you do to live this way. Or if you answer, “I’m passionate about making this world a better place,” share whatever it is you do to foster this passion. For instance, do you support a specific cause(s) and if so how?
You don’t need to go overboard, but if you provide sparse answers or leave questions unanswered, your matches may feel that you are not as invested in the process as they are or that you’re someone who may not be easy to get to know. Again, keep in mind who your audience is and that you are creating your About Me page to engage your matches and promote communication!
DETAILS, DETAILS, DETAILS
It really can’t be said too many times! Case in points: It may not be surprising that many of the activities listed by members when answering “How do you typically spend your leisure time?” are similar. Watching movies, travelling, listening to music, etc., are often listed. Nothing wrong with these answers. But, by providing just one more level of detail, your matches can get a deeper understanding of your personality and interests. So share what type of movies you like or how you like to travel, where you’ve been and where you’d like to go, or that you enjoy hearing live music and/or what type of music.
So whenever you can, provide a who, what, when, where, and/or how in your answers. Even when you feel you’ve been specific; see if you can add a little more detail. I spoke one time to a member who called to tell us she meet someone on eHarmony. She said that sharing her favorite author was what caught her now fiancé’s attention!
In addition, make sure you are reading the questions thoroughly so you can answer each question completely! When answering Question 3, make sure to share not only who, aside from your parents, has been most influential in your life but also why. In Question 11, when you are asked about the last book you read, make sure to also include what it was about and what you liked most about it.
USE THE SPACE PROVIDED WISELY
You need space to add valuable details and space is limited; so don’t repeat information. For example, don’t repeat a “passion” you shared about in Questions 1 also as a “leisure time activity.” If you are an avid reader, instead of sharing this in your “leisure time” answer, share your love of reading, your favorite genres, and your favorite author when answering Question 11.
ON TO PART TWO
I hope you find these suggestions useful. If you have any thoughts or comments about anything I’ve shared or have suggestions of your own, please don’t hesitate to share them.