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How to Say No to Narcissists and Takers

Does this sound familiar? A friend I’ll call “Ed” kept pushing me to contribute to my school’s alumni fund. The more he called me, the more stubborn I felt that my answer was, “No.” I felt that not only did I lack the money necessary to contribute in order to make a true difference, but […]

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About You, Expert Advice, Important Questions, Mind, Body And Spirit
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7 Ways to Connect with Your Date

Have you ever struggled to connect on a date? Or felt absolutely nothing sitting across the table from a potential partner? Or have you ever felt a strong connection to someone and believed you were going to get another date, but the feeling was not mutual? Do you have a sense of what was missing […]

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Are You Dating a ‘Chronically Difficult’ Person?

Everyone has bad days. Everyone goes through rough patches. You’ve been there yourself. Someone you care about is overwhelmed or stressed to the point of snippiness and name-calling, or worse, a complete meltdown. It’s surprising and annoying, but you understand. You have compassion. You make an exception because you know that it’s temporary. Things will […]

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Move Beyond Casual Dating: 3 Tips for Choosing a Partner You Can Grow With

You met at the right time and everything just fell into place. You’ve dated plenty of other people but it has never felt this right. You’re ready to move past casual dating and take the next step. A big, scary, exciting step. When you find someone you’re ready to take that leap with, it isn’t […]

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15 Ways to Interact in a Crowd — When You Hate Crowds

If you are in a relationship—or want to be—you’re sure to find yourself in a crowd of new people at some point. A friend might drag you to a singles’ mixer, your roommate might host a party with guests you don’t know, or your new partner might bring you to a family gathering. You may […]

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About You, Expert Advice, Mind, Body And Spirit
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5 Ways to Cope with Dating Frustrations

Once you set out to find your ideal match, the search can seem as if it’s taking forever. Impatience and frustration commonly occur once you immerse yourself in dating  — and finding love does not happen as quickly as it has for others. Love may seem within reach, but also far away. Going on a […]

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About You, Being Single, Dating Tips, Expert Advice, Online Date Tips
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4 Strategies to Connect with your Desire for Love

It is easy to hope for a more satisfying love life, but are you truly connected to attaining one? Can you imagine yourself in a happy, healthy, and stable relationship? Or do you notice yourself avoiding the answer? Some of my single clients who are looking for a partner can so easily report that they […]

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About You, Being Single, Dating Advice, Expert Advice
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4 Ways to Handle Loneliness This Time of Year

While this time of year brings excitement and joy, it also typically brews sadness, loneliness, jealousy, disappointment, and anxiety. These feelings can become especially overwhelming as you reflect on your life circumstances and come to terms with being single. So, why does this season bring up difficult emotions, particularly loneliness? Holidays breed high expectations and anticipation as there […]

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About You, Being Single, Breaking Up, Date Tips, Expert Advice
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Are You a Pleasure Pig?

Our cat Yoda is nicknamed “the pleasure pig.” Yoda demands massive amounts of attention, belly rubs, cheek scratches, and snacks of his favorite baby food, which we call “Yoda’s Crack.”  The other day, I watched my husband Brian give Yoda a yoga stretching massage and silently wished that I was as good at demanding pleasure […]

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About You, Being Single, Expert Advice
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15 Ways to Deal with the Grinches in Your Life

In 1957, the incomparable Dr. Seuss unleashed one of his most memorable characters, the scowling, green-hued Grinch. This, of course, is the cranky guy who seeks to ruin Christmas and rob others of holiday joy. The term “grinch” went on to be applied not only to the Seussian character, but to all sorts of people who […]

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