In 1986 Robert Fulghum wrote a brilliant bestseller called “All I Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten.” His gift was to remind us that successful living is not complex at all—once you recall the simple truths that have been there all along.
The first piece of advice? To be nice. We all remember hearing these words as children: “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” Good advice. Dating is all about getting acquainted with someone new, and that happens mostly through what we communicate. Since saying nothing at all is not an option on a date, at least refrain from hurtful gossip, offensive humor, trash-talking your ex, or criticizing the waitress because she brought you the wrong appetizer. Got something nice to say? Let the words flow. Got something negative to say? Turn off the spigot.