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For singles, personal growth is an important part of dating and building relationships. eHarmony brings you expert advice for your personal development.

love over fear

5 Reasons to Choose Love over Fear

There are really only two human emotions: love and fear. All other emotions stem from those two basic emotions. Love is unconditional acceptance and the willingness to go beyond oneself for our own benefit (self-love) or the benefit of another. Fear is the absence of love, just as judgment is the withholding of love. Couples, […]

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About You, Commitment, Communication, Date Tips, Dating Advice, Dating Issues
love again

How One Word Helped Me to Believe in Love Again

For me, it all begins around my birthday. The anxiety that is. When September 16 appears on the calendar and I realize I’ve gone yet another year without having a relationship—meaning I’ll (likely) be spending another birthday, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s all by my lonesome—I start to get panicky. It’s not that I […]

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About You, Being Single
stressing about love life

15 Ways to Stop Worrying About Your Love Life

No one denies that life in the modern era is stressful—and dating can add another layer of worry. You get nervous about going out with someone new (who doesn’t?), and may start asking yourself, “Am I ever going to find a great partner? Why don’t my relationships work out? Am I doing something wrong?” If this sounds familiar to […]

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About You, Being Single, Dating Advice
how to connect with love

4 Strategies to Connect with your Desire for Love

It is easy to hope for a more satisfying love life, but are you truly connected to attaining one? Can you imagine yourself in a happy, healthy, and stable relationship? Or do you notice yourself avoiding the answer? Some of my single clients who are looking for a partner can so easily report that they […]

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About You, Being Single, Dating Advice, Expert Advice
15 reasons to date an irish person

15 Ways to Make Sure You Are ‘Relationship Material’

Perhaps you’ve heard it said that the best way to attract a fabulous partner is to BE a fabulous partner. To take that principle a step further, if you want to attract someone who is magnificent “marriage material,” make sure that YOU are magnificent marriage material. Here’s how to know if this applies to you: 1. You […]

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About You, Being Single, Date Tips, Dating Advice
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4 Ways to Handle Loneliness This Time of Year

While this time of year brings excitement and joy, it also typically brews sadness, loneliness, jealousy, disappointment, and anxiety. These feelings can become especially overwhelming as you reflect on your life circumstances and come to terms with being single. So, why does this season bring up difficult emotions, particularly loneliness? Holidays breed high expectations and anticipation as there […]

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About You, Being Single, Breaking Up, Date Tips, Expert Advice
pleasure pig

Are You a Pleasure Pig?

Our cat Yoda is nicknamed “the pleasure pig.” Yoda demands massive amounts of attention, belly rubs, cheek scratches, and snacks of his favorite baby food, which we call “Yoda’s Crack.”  The other day, I watched my husband Brian give Yoda a yoga stretching massage and silently wished that I was as good at demanding pleasure […]

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About You, Being Single, Expert Advice
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15 Ways to Deal with the Grinches in Your Life

In 1957, the incomparable Dr. Seuss unleashed one of his most memorable characters, the scowling, green-hued Grinch. This, of course, is the cranky guy who seeks to ruin Christmas and rob others of holiday joy. The term “grinch” went on to be applied not only to the Seussian character, but to all sorts of people who […]

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About You, Date Tips, Expert Advice, Mind, Body And Spirit
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Single Gal Lindsay Tigar: ‘How I Survived a Couples Weekend’

Of all the places I’d like to spend my Saturday and Sunday, a scenic, romantic, quintessential rustic, sexy mountain getaway isn’t at the top of my list. Especially when that weekend happens to be the ‘Romantic Couple’s’-themed weekend. But as a woman who never backs down from a challenge, when Mohonk Mountain House in New […]

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About You, Being Single
Christmas presents with hand made decorations - crocheted flower and snowflake, pine cones, vanilla pods. DIY decorations for wrapped in craft paper gifts.

A Holiday Gift Guide for You!

While you’re busy checking your beloved friends and family off your holiday shopping list, you might be a little disappointed as you walk by the men’s section and don’t have a partner to buy for. The holiday season while merry and bright, is often a time when you’re reminded of your lack of relationship status. […]

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About You, Being Single, Seasonal