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For singles, personal growth is an important part of dating and building relationships. eHarmony brings you expert advice for your personal development.

dating positively

When Dating Gets You Down: How to Keep the Hope Alive

“I just don’t do well with women. They are like a puzzle I’ll never be able to solve.” “I shouldn’t get too attached to him because he will leave me anyways. That’s what they always do.” “She’s nice and we had a great time, but I feel jaded from being burned by other women. There’s […]

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About You, Date Tips, Dating Advice, Expert Advice, Mind, Body And Spirit, Online Date Tips
cats and love

15 Things Cats Can Teach Us About Love

Cat ladies, we get it. Wherever you fall on the feline love continuum, you can learn lessons about life and love by observing these furry creatures, including: 1. Regular affection forms a bond. For cats and humans, being held, hugged, and cuddled creates a loving feeling. 2. Purring is contagious. When you are happy and you […]

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About You, Seasonal
what we could learn about dogs

15 Things Dogs Can Teach You About Love

Human beings are proud of the fact that we are the highest life form on the planet. But before we get too smug about our superior intellect and ability to innovate, let’s pause to acknowledge that we can learn a lot from other species. Especially about love … and especially from the species canis lupus familiaris, […]

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About You, Mind, Body And Spirit, Seasonal
dealing with depression

How I’ve Tackled My Depression (And You Can, Too)

For the first 15 years of my life, I was a relatively happy person. But about the time my parents got divorced, I became angry and cynical. Now I realize that I was externalizing my inner feelings of unworthiness and self-hatred. I was 15, which is a time when many people start to exhibit these […]

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About You, Mind, Body And Spirit
dating advice

3 Critical Steps to a Healthy Dating Life

Your divorce is final and you are ready, perhaps reluctantly, to get back into dating again. The reluctance sounds something like “I’m scared there is no one out there who is right for me!” After all, you’ve heard it time and again from some of your hopelessly single friends who seem deep down miserable. Hearing this so frequently, […]

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About You, Being Single, Date Tips, Dating Advice, Dating Issues, Expert Advice
are you too close to the ex

8 Ways You Are Crossing Healthy Boundaries with the Ex

As a chocolate lover, I’d like to think you can never have too much chocolate. Similarly, I want to say you can never be too good. But I do think you can overplay a strength, particularly with an ex, and get yourself in trouble. It’s the same with chocolate, no matter how good it is, […]

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About You, Relationship Advice, Relationship Problems, Relationships
how to be more positive

15 Ways to Cultivate an Optimistic Outlook

Researchers have long understood that a person’s attitude largely determines his or her success in a wide range of areas: career, athletics, financial goals, and relationships. Perhaps relationships most of all. This is good news for singles looking for their lifetime partner. If you are a pessimist by nature, you can make changes and form […]

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About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit
are you ready to date after divorce

After the Divorce: 5 Ways to Know if You’re Ready to Date

Divorced and thinking about dating again? That could mean you’ve weathered the emotional storm that accompanies divorce, processed what went wrong with your marriage, learned what you could, and are now ready to take all of your newfound wisdom and start fresh. OR it could mean that you’re looking to date as a distraction in […]

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About You, Dating Advice, Dating Tips For Men, Dating Tips For Women
letter to future children

Dear Future Children: Here’s What You Need to Know about Dating

Dear Future Children, We haven’t met yet, but I’ve thought about you…my whole life. When I was flying back from Europe for the first time (with your grandma), I wrote you a letter about why I hope you travel, and that you take more advantage of your passport than I did in college. There’s so […]

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About You, Being Single, Dating Advice
can i be friends with an ex

How to Tell If You Are Really Ready to Be Friends with the Ex

Ever broken up, only to realize you really missed the friendship you and your ex shared? A common reaction is to try to maintain the friendship during or right after the breakup. As ‘Vanessa’ wrote, “I ended it with the guy I was seeing. I did it because I started thinking about what you said about […]

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