Our cat Yoda is nicknamed “the pleasure pig.” Yoda demands massive amounts of attention, belly rubs, cheek scratches, and snacks of his favorite baby food, which we call “Yoda’s Crack.” The other day, I watched my husband Brian give Yoda a yoga stretching massage and silently wished that I was as good at demanding pleasure as Yoda is!
I think it’s safe to say that there is always room in life for more love and more pleasure; and whether you have a partner or not, there are lots of ways to activate and create more loving and pleasurable feelings.
When you want to feel more love, you can consciously do it by actively releasing the hormone oxytocin into your brain. Known as the “bonding” chemical, oxytocin is really good for you. According to love master Dr. John Gray, women need to constantly rebuild their “oxytocin levels.” Oxytocin is the bonding hormone essential for women in their ability to give and receive love.
Why is this important?
Stress is one of the main reasons we become depleted in oxytocin, so taking simple steps to rebuild it is necessary to maintain a happy, healthy lifestyle. And as you already know, dating and mating can be stressful, especially for women. Learning to be a pleasure pig and filling up your oxytocin tank not only reduces stress and gives you resiliency, but it also puts you in a state of readiness to give and receive love.
Taking time for long, warm bubble baths, receiving massages, listening to music, dancing, walking in nature, having a quiet cup of tea, going for mani-pedi’s, getting your hair done, enjoying a perfect piece of chocolate (or your favorite treat)…these are a few ways to add pleasure to your daily life that also rebuild oxytocin.
A big bonus: Oxytocin can be generated lots of ways, and the more you have, the better you will feel.
It’s well known that a simple hug, gazing into the eyes of someone you care about, or petting your dog or cat will boost your oxytocin level. Going shopping also does the trick. Even if you don’t buy anything, just looking at and touching beautiful items makes a difference.
If consciously adding pleasure to your daily life doesn’t come naturally to you, I would suggest a little experiment: For the next 7 days, decide to add at least 15–20 minutes of pleasure…all for you. And as you create your to-do list, put YOU on the top of that list, then watch what happens! Become a pleasure pig like Yoda!
By taking the time to add pleasure to your life, you’ll be calmer, happier, and more receptive to enjoying and attracting love at every level. When we’re relaxed and in the flow, it’s a zillion times easier to access and emit our positive emotions.
For practical, real-world tips for sustaining a life of love, check out my new book, Turn Your Mate into Your Soulmate.
Arielle Ford is a gifted writer and the author of ten books including her latest, Turn Your Mate into Your Soulmate: A Practical Guide to Happily Ever After, and the international bestseller, The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction. She has been called “The Cupid of Consciousness” and “The Fairy Godmother of Love.” She lives in La Jolla, California with her husband/soulmate, Brian Hilliard, and their feline friends. Visit her at www.ArielleFord.com