Summer is suddenly over, and your Facebook feed is flooded with “Back to School” photos. Although no one posts “Continuing to Work” photos when you’re an adult, the beginning of September brings a fresh energy of renewal and focus that’s perfect to apply to dating. Why not start a “Back to Dating” tradition by posting photos of yourself holding up new profile pics and showing off your fall date sweaters? Actually, that’s not a bad idea …
Although we romanticize the long hot nights and lazy beach days of July and August, summer can be a lousy time to date. People are juggling vacation and custody schedules, and it’s no wonder that a date’s well-meaning “We should get together again soon” text from mid-July never materialized.
It’s time to get serious and date with intent – but still have fun! This is the season of pumpkin spice lattes and football, after all.
Here’s why you should think of September as your Fall Dating Kickoff month:
1) There’s lots of fun stuff to do
The weather is still warm, and the coming months are full of fall festivals, Oktoberfest events, apple picking, leaf peeping, hayrides, football games, and butternut squash soup-making. Your favorite alumni and community groups tend to host autumn events, and all those Meetup organizers are competing to fill up your weekends.
2) It’s the perfect window to start a romance
This is a great time to get a relationship going before people get busy again with holiday plans. And you might have an established sweetie to take to holiday parties and family dinners.
Bonus: You won’t have to add dating to your list of New Year’s resolutions because you will have already made it a priority in the fall.
3) Fall is romantic
Perhaps it’s the smell of pumpkin-spice everything or the hint of cold that makes you want to cuddle up next to someone. Fall just feels cozy. And that’s more conducive to fostering closeness than “please don’t touch me” humidity.
4) Out with the old, in with the new…you
Do some of your own “Back to Dating” shopping by putting together new fall outfits. Freshen up summer feet with a pedicure (Guys, I’m talking to you, too!) Play around with a new hairstyle.
Prepare mentally and physically to date by freeing up space in your life, whether that’s taking care of long-simmering projects, buying that ink cartridge for your printer, getting your shoes fixed or finally picking up your dry cleaning. Wash your car. Make a plan to train for the Turkey Trot. Clean out your refrigerator and closets. Drop off your old clothes at Goodwill.
Get ready to celebrate a new season and hopefully an exciting new chapter in your life.
How do you get ready for “Back to Dating” season?
About the Author:
Sarah Elizabeth Richards is a journalist and the author of Motherhood, Rescheduled: The New Frontier of Egg Freezing and the Women Who Tried It. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Marie Claire, Elle, Cosmopolitan, Slate, and Salon.