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February 20, 2015

It’s Not About the Shampoo (Listen for the Unspoken)

How many times have you had a conversation with someone where they got really upset over something trivial? Clearly, there was a subtext there and something deeper going on. Instead of just reacting in the moment, is it possible to figure out what’s actually occuring and steer things in a more positive direction? Author Peter Bregman […]

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how to deal with divorce
February 19, 2015

How My Divorce Helped Me Grow

“The best lessons are the ones we learned the hard way!” Yup! My divorce sucked (that’s the best word for it). It was a really, really bad time in my life. If you have ever been through a divorce, or a really bad breakup, you can likely relate. It’s not an experience I would wish […]

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February 19, 2015

Grant Langston: How I Would Prevent a Guy From Cheating…

I have been lucky enough to work with Grant Langston, our VP of Brand Marketing, for the past six years. He always comes to the table with some very real wisdom, and I am happy to see other people acknowledging him as well, like our friends over at DatingAdvice.com! I had to share the great […]

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how to get over a broken heart
February 18, 2015

Mending a Broken Heart: New Research on an Old Problem

After a breakup, the newly single often hear two, somewhat contradictory, pieces of advice. First, there are the friends and family members who encourage the heartbroken to “move on.” Forget ‘em. You deserve better! But there are also more philosophical types who will encourage the lovelorn to process the relationship a bit, to grieve and […]

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when a date is rude to the waiter
February 18, 2015

When Your Date is Rude to Waiters: It Means Everything or Nothing?

As deplorable as this behavior is, you’d probably be surprised by how frequently this type of rudeness occurs on dinner dates. Think for a moment about exes from your past. Specifically, ask yourself whether anyone who was ever rude to waiters turned out later to be one of the kindest and most compassionate people you know. I […]

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February 13, 2015

Rob and Kristen Bell on the Best Way to Find Love

This Sunday, Oprah Winfrey sits down with Pastor Rob Bell and his wife Kristen for a conversation about transforming your relationships. But before that, we were fortunate enough to chat with the amazing couple as they answered your questions from our eHarmony social media channels. I think you will really like their answers, because I found them […]

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friendships and what makes good ones
February 12, 2015

The Top 5 Attributes of Real Friends

“What we’re all striving for is authenticity, a spirit-to-spirit connection.” — Oprah Winfrey I recently had business meetings in NYC on a Monday. I took advantage of flying up there the weekend prior and scheduled catch-up time with several friends. Two of the friends lived in or near NYC so it was easy for us to […]

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codependent relationship and how to stop
February 11, 2015

Codependent Dating: Signs and How to Stop It

As a relationship therapist, I see codependence all the time. Put another way, I see codependence as frequently as, say, Jennifer Lopez sees bronzer when she looks in her makeup bag. (And that’s a lot.) Codependence – which I’ll define in a moment – is one of the biggest problems people have in relationships, and […]

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February 11, 2015

Valentine’s Gifts that Don’t Cost a Penny

If you are single this Valentine’s Day, you can either choose to feel sad you aren’t with anyone, or you can just look at the day like any other. It’s. just. a. day. Hang out with friends or family if it is bothering you and you struggle with being alone. And before you know it … it […]

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February 10, 2015

A Woman Faces the Men Who Rejected Her—and Makes a Surprising Discovery

When Lea Thau was 38, her fiancé broke up with her while she was pregnant with their child. She subsequently became single for the first time in her adult life. “I went from being engaged to be married and pregnant and looking for houses every Sunday to being eight months pregnant, alone in an apartment, […]

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