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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


too picky
January 10, 2017

Finding Fault with Everyone You Date: When No One is Good Enough

Because I write about dating and relationships, I’m always on the lookout for issues that affect both men and women. I occasionally find myself “accidentally” listening to others’ conversations as I’m standing in line or eating at a restaurant, and I’m always asking friends to share their own dating experiences to see if there is an […]

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reenter the dating world
January 9, 2017

‘How Do I Re-Enter the Dating World?’

Dear Sara: I just read your article about conquering the fear of rejection and continuing to put oneself out there. My question: How do I know whether my status is a stigma against putting myself ‘out there’? Why is a female widow viewed as unavailable? I am a widow, and almost every [time] I get […]

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Closeup view of silhouette of three darts sticking in a professional sisal dartboard. All three darts hit the inner bull / bull's eye / mark.
January 6, 2017

3 Dating Resolutions Everyone Can Achieve

Some people say that New Year’s resolutions are silly or even meaningless, but those naysayers are probably people who have made them in the past and then broken them. If you are an organized list maker or goal setter, you are probably someone who gets things done timely and effectively. For you, setting resolutions is a […]

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New Year's clock at midnight
December 22, 2016

Single on New Year’s? Don’t Sweat It.

What are you doing for New Year’s?” It’s an innocent question, but for many people it can inspire mild panic. If you don’t have a good answer—that is, if you can’t report that you’re attending a glittery party with a live swing band or a cozy dinner where the hosts serve great wine and paella—it […]

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holiday
December 22, 2016

A Holiday Survival Guide for Singles

We have some very creative people who work at eHarmony! One of our social media specialists Shannon created this sweet survival guide for anyone having a tough time during the holidays. Whether you are single or in a relationship, I think this time of year can feel a bit lonely if you have lost loved […]

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onlinedatinghighseason
December 19, 2016

What ‘Online Dating High Season’ Means For You

If Christmas morning is the best day of the year for children, then the day after might be the best day of the year for adults. That is, adults who are online dating. At eHarmony, we receive a record number of new signups on December 26, followed by New Year’s Day. You’ve opened gifts, put […]

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holidays for a single person
December 19, 2016

This Holiday Season, Give Yourself a Break

During the holidays, most of us hope to take some time off from work. But at the same time, many singles often find themselves working overtime at a job that never seems to let up: Being single. There are, of course, the questions. “Are you seeing anyone special?” “When are you going to settle down?” […]

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how to get over someone
December 7, 2016

‘I Have No Relationship Experience’

Dear Sara: Growing up, I lived a very sheltered life: Most things were simply given to me, in return for a level of conformity that followed certain expectations. Throughout high school, I was essentially prohibited from being in a relationship (along with strict avoidance of drinking and partying—yeah, those were fun years) as I was […]

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Young people in cafe looking at each other
December 6, 2016

Why Dating Two People at Once Isn’t Cheating

Last month, I wrote an article for eHarmony titled “How to Date Two People at the Same Time (and Not Go Crazy).” The response on Twitter was extreme. Some men and women could not believe that a psychologist who specializes in relationships would suggest that it is okay or morally acceptable to date two people […]

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nice guys and dating
November 30, 2016

‘Nice Guys’ Make Her Want To Run

Dear Sara: My therapist was telling me that there is a certain pattern in my relationships and that I should rather go for the nice guy to become happy with a man. She tells me that my loving feelings for a man are a sign of “active patterns.” She told me “take the nice guy […]

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