eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


laughter and dating
June 10, 2015

Want First Date Success? Share a Few Laughs

A sense of humor has been shown to be the most important thing to daters time and time again. But what happens when you share a laugh? How can it affect your budding relationship? Read here to find out.

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way through the maze
June 9, 2015

Matters of the Heart: Being Flexible Versus Settling

In 2009, Internet entrepreneur Kevin Systrom created a mobile app called Burbn, (get it?) which let users check in at a location, make plans for future check-ins, earn points by checking in friends, and post photos of the get together. It was complicated, but it was what Kevin wanted to build, and so he did […]

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breakup tips
June 8, 2015

After a Breakup: 6 Tips to Get Your Happy Back

Getting over a breakup is never going to be easy, but you can make it a lot less painful if you are strategic about how you cope in the first few weeks after it happens. Because I counsel men and women on relationship issues, I have watched hundreds of clients over the years go through […]

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A young woman is sitting on a swing on a hill burned by a wild fire
June 4, 2015

Navigating the Joys and Sorrows of Single Life

Recently, Singular City editor Kim Calvert commented on the negative tone that many people take when writing about the single life, noting my work in particular. Calvert cited a recent newsletter of mine, in which I expressed my belief that our positive-thinking culture often makes people feel worse because it pressures them to deny their […]

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once a cheater always a cheater
June 3, 2015

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

You’ve probably heard someone say it before: “If he cheated once, he’ll do it again.” Everyone loves a good generalization, don’t they? If someone cheats once, will that person usually cheat again? In a nutshell, people who cheat will usually cheat again unless they suffer a major consequence for their behavior. Cheaters who experienced a […]

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dating and friendship
June 1, 2015

Why You Should Be Happy When Your Match Just Wants to Be Friends

A few years ago, I went on a boring brunch date that ended up being one of the best decisions of my life. I met a guy I’ll call Kevin at a Mexican restaurant in the West Village of Manhattan. We ate mediocre huevos rancheros, chatted about what it was like to have moved to […]

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dating and things to not discuss on the phone
June 1, 2015

Dating and the Phone: 5 Topics to Never Discuss by Telephone

In the beginning stage of dating, men and women often feel compelled to get to know each other as fast as humanly possible. In such cases, much of that getting to know each other happens over the phone. A new couple may spend hours on the phone at night, hitting every topic from favorite vacation […]

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marital advice
May 28, 2015

Rule #7: Be on the Same Team

“The way a team plays as a whole determines its success. You may have the greatest bunch of individual stars in the world, but if they don’t play together, the club won’t be worth a dime.” ~ Babe Ruth Those of you have been following this series know that it began when I read an […]

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biggest mistakes in online dating
May 22, 2015

4 Big Online Dating Mistakes People are Making Right Now

Online dating has changed a lot in the last few years. As technology advances, social norms morph, and personal preferences change, the decisions and mistakes people make evolve as well. Last year, I oversaw the launch of a new version of eHarmony, eH+. It’s a premium service that takes eHarmony’s matching algorithm and combines it with […]

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finding love
May 19, 2015

Looking for The Real Thing? Find Someone Comfortable

Ask him for a date, or let him pursue you? Respond to the text immediately, or let her wait? Tell him you love him, or stay mum until he says it first? The early days of a relationship are thrilling, but also stressful. That heavenly new-love high can feel pretty precarious, as if one false […]

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