The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

single during thanksgiving
November 21, 2016

Single at Thanksgiving: A Simple Plan For Dealing With Family

My friend Rachel recently told me about a furniture shopping trip she took with her mother. Her mom wanted to purchase a comfortable guest bed that would accommodate her sister and brother-in-law. Both Rachel and her sister were in their 40s and had recently married for first time. Their mother was still adjusting to the […]

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what men want
November 11, 2016

Men Are Looking for a Nurturer, Not Another Mother

Having worked with hundreds of male clients over the years, I can say with assurance that what men are really looking for in a woman is nurturance. Men are looking for a woman who can be strong, but also kind and warm. Men want a woman who shows them physical affection, and also listens when […]

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rejection
November 3, 2016

‘I’m Tired of Being Rejected’

Dear Sara: I am a 29-year-old single male with social awkwardness, and I’m depressed because I’m getting nowhere with women. I have met some women online, and I’m lucky to get a second date with just one of them. I take it personally, like it’s me, and have had a psychic tell me it’s because I […]

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finding love during new years
November 3, 2016

60 Days ‘Til Love: Get Ready for the New Year’s Rush

The arrival of November marks the start of the holiday season. It’s also the time when singles like to complain about how terrible it is to be unattached during these weeks of holiday cheer. Here’s a better idea: Use the next two months to get ready for the time when it’s actually great to be […]

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loneliness
October 20, 2016

Write Your Break-Up Recovery Story

When you’re dealing with the pain and trauma of a breakup, there are few phrases more annoying than “look on the bright side” or “it’s probably for the best.” Your heart has been shattered. Your life, upheaved. Who will get the friends? What will I do with my weekends? Will I ever see my blue […]

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whatdowomenwant
October 20, 2016

What Do Women Want: Looks or Character?

Would you rather be with a handsome man or an altruistic man? A British study recently published in Evolutionary Psychology examined how much a man’s level of altruism influences his attractiveness to women. In the study, led by University of Worcester psychologist Daniel Farrelly, 202 heterosexual women looked at photographs of pairs of men. In […]

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say no and say yes
October 6, 2016

Sometimes You Have to Say No to Say Yes!

“A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, or is it?” Have you ever had to say no to something in order to open the door to saying yes to something else? What happened? I had a great conversation with a colleague over lunch last week. She’s been dating a guy for […]

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relationship advice
October 4, 2016

‘I Don’t Understand Why She Left’

Dear Sara: Two and a half years ago, I met a woman online (I was 43 and she was 33 and an alcoholic, sober for 3 years), and we hit it off right away. She was witty and smart. We communicated really well, and we had great physical chemistry. After a few weeks, she said […]

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why brad and angelina are divorcing
September 20, 2016

Brad, Angelina, and the Real Reason Many Relationships Fail

I always look for a silver lining with these types of news stories: ‘Brad and Angelina: It’s Over.’ In this latest case of a celeb marriage turned sour, I turned to our Chief Scientist Steve Carter, who has been studying relationships at eHarmony for 15+ years, for his take on why so many unions just […]

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attracted to unhappy people
August 4, 2016

‘Why Am I Attracted to Unhappy People?’

Believe it or not, dating people who are unhappy is a problem for scores of men and women. If dating unhappy people sounds ridiculous to you, dig deeper into your own romantic past and you will probably find a person or two who was unhappy through and through. Does it mean something if you have […]

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