Dating Dos and Don’ts

The dating arena can be scary. Here’s a little direction to get you through those “Should I” or “Shouldn’t I” moments.

‘When Looking For a Partner, Should I Make a List?’

Dear Sara: I have a checkbox of things I would really like in a partner. College-educated, maybe a white-collar job. Am I being too picky? — T Dear T: I don’t think there is anything wrong with a making list, though I do have a few basic guidelines. 1. Keep it short. When you buy […]

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Guys: If You’re Short, Say it in Your Dating Profile

In an ideal world, people would naturally get along and no one would care too much about appearance or fitting in. One of the realities about dating that will never change is that physical appearance matters. While we all agree that appearance matters more than it should – and that people should look for romantic […]

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When Dating Brings Out Major Insecurities (and How to Get Over Them)

Insecurity is an interesting personality trait when it comes to dating. Perhaps you’d imagine that a therapist like myself would say that insecurity is a trait that repels men and women alike – that it will prevent anyone from being attracted to you or wanting to start a relationship with you. The (paradoxical) truth is […]

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11 Signs You Have Nothing in Common with Your Date

What first comes to mind as I write about this issue is the old trope about yin and yang, or the expression that opposes attract. While there is some truth to these concepts – because none of us wants to be with someone exactly like us in every way – two people will need to […]

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The Hidden Reason You’re Not Getting a Second Date

Did you have a really good first date? The conversation flowed easily. You laughed for hours. You told each other your best stories. Maybe you shared some personal stuff. You went to a second place for a drink or took a romantic stroll by the lake or around town. Perhaps you held hands or even […]

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Text Your Way to More Dates: 7 Tips

No matter if you love or hate texting, it’s hard to escape the “texting phase” in a budding relationship. In the best case, it’s an exchange of witty one-liners and fascinating reveals that create a slow build of anticipation to chatting on the phone and finally meeting. In the worst, it’s a painful and seemingly […]

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Never Be Attracted Again to Someone Who Plays ‘Hard to Get’

The term “hard to get” needs no explanation. We all know what it means because each one of us has probably experienced it firsthand. Men and women who play hard to get may engage in any of the following behaviors: they express interest but never commit to an actual date; they break plans at the […]

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A Simple Trick to Boost Your Attractiveness

You probably experienced this phenomenon of human nature at school or work: There were certain people you weren’t sweet on at first, but as you got to know them, they became more and more physically appealing over time. The reason is that you came to appreciate the qualities that made them likeable – their sense […]

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Dating a High-Maintenance Man: Prepared for the Challenge?

Quick word association game: Picture someone high-maintenance. Got it? When many people conjure thoughts of someone who fits this definition, they often picture a woman. Specifically, they picture a Kim Kardashian-type who demands the finest materialistic possessions and who treats herself like a total queen. And while such women do exist, don’t think for a […]

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How to Talk Politics Without Scaring Off Your Date

We all know never to discuss politics on the first date. The reason is a good one: It’s hard to find that soft spot in your heart when you feel you have to defend your basic beliefs about who you are and how you see the world. Of course, the advice is even more relevant […]

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