Monique A Honaman

Posts by Monique A Honaman

Author Monique A. Honaman wrote "The High Road Has Less Traffic: honest advice on the path through love and divorce" in response to a need for a book that provided honest, real, and raw advice about how to survive and thrive through one of life's toughest journeys. The second book in the series, “The High Road Has Less Traffic ...
and a better view” (2013) is all about providing perspectives. She is not a divorce attorney, nor a clinical psychologist, or a marriage therapist ... just a regular person like you — having experienced the complexities of love, marriage, divorce, parenting, dating, remarriage, and everything in between. Her goal is to share perspectives from life along the way that are inspiring, motivating, and thought-provoking ... and, of course, at times witty, sarcastic, and challenging.

say no and say yes
October 6, 2016

Sometimes You Have to Say No to Say Yes!

“A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, or is it?” Have you ever had to say no to something in order to open the door to saying yes to something else? What happened? I had a great conversation with a colleague over lunch last week. She’s been dating a guy for […]

asking questions
August 10, 2016

The Art of Being Curious and Asking Questions

  “You don’t have to know everything in the world. We aren’t supposed to. It makes you boring in mixed company if you can’t be interested and ask questions of other people.” ~ Angela Johnson I know enough about myself to know that I get really frustrated by people who don’t ask any questions of […]

Couple Holding Hands
July 20, 2016

DATE: What I Learned from an Adorable Couple Who Met Online

I was traveling recently, and met a couple who were clearly dating and seemed very much “in like” and heading towards “in love.” As I so often do, I started asking them all sorts of questions about how they met, and because of what I do, my interest was immediately piqued when they said they […]

May 11, 2016


I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou There are an overwhelming number of women who feel unappreciated by their husbands. I often hear the following: “I just want to feel appreciated. For years I have […]

Woman by a mirror
April 19, 2016

What is your “So What Now?”

“It is not only what we do, but also what we do not do, for which we are accountable.” ~ John Baptiste Moliere I saw a cartoon the other day that said, “Divorce is like algebra. You look at your X and ask Y.” When I ask people going through a divorce what they might […]

thoughtful or asking us to shut up and make some silence this blonde woman has big beautiful eyes and an intense look
March 31, 2016

The Important Role of Doubt

“Doubt is the pinprick in the life raft.” Library of Souls, Ransom Riggs When doubt enters into a relationship, it’s like the pinprick in the life raft, and if left unattended, it slowly sucks the air out completely leaving nothing but a saggy, soggy remnant of what once was. Doubt! I’ve spoken with many people […]

changes in life
March 25, 2016

Change: An Opportunity for Renewal!

  “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” ~ Socrates   Your life has changed. You are now divorced. Perhaps you wanted this change. Perhaps you didn’t sign up for this change. Perhaps you were blindsided by this change. Regardless, change […]

Plan target on grunge background
February 9, 2016

5 Steps to Creating Your Dating Marketing Plan

“Bring the best of your authentic self to every opportunity.” ~ John Jantsch, Author of Duct Tape Marketing An evening meeting with a professional colleague (let’s call her Susan) turned a little punchy last week. We were talking about our business marketing strategy … which led to an economics discussion on supply and demand … […]

New year resolutions about to get healthy on the wooden background
January 5, 2016

5 Dating Resolutions I am Going to Keep in 2016

“Tomorrow is the first blank page in a 365-page book. Write a good one.” Happy New Year! You rang in the new year and resolved that this will be the year that your dating life changes … for the better! Now what!? Here are 5 resolutions you may want to consider as you look ahead […]

Autumn leaves in girl hands, instagram toned
November 25, 2015


Thankfulness is the beginning of gratitude. Gratitude is the completion of thankfulness. Thankfulness may consist merely of words. Gratitude is shown in acts.  Henri Frederic Amiel, Swiss Philosopher It’s Thanksgiving. It’s that time of year when we put a bit more focus and attention on what we are thankful for in our lives. I love […]