Posts by Dr. Gian Gonzaga, Senior Director of Research & Development

Gian Gonzaga, Ph.D. Senior Director of Research & Development Dr. Gonzaga brings expertise in relationship, emotion and health psychology to eHarmony Labs. At the Labs, Dr. Gonzaga is researching initial attraction and will direct one of the largest, and most comprehensive longitudinal study of marriage to date. Prior to joining eHarmony Dr. Gonzaga worked with world-renowned marriage researcher Dr. Thomas Bradbury at the University of California, Los Angeles. There he researched the factors that led to marital success as part of an 11-year study of married couples. He also worked with Dr. Shelley Taylor, a leading expert in how social relationships buffer individuals against stress. He has taught, presented and published extensively on topics relating to relationships, love and health, and has received numerous honors and awards for his work, including the prestigious National Science foundation minority Predoctoral Fellowship and Psi Chi National Undergraduate Research Competition. Dr. Gonzaga is a member of several professional and academic associations including the American Psychological Association, the American Psychological Society, the Society for Personality and Social Psychology and the International Society for the Study of Personal Relationships Dr. Gonzaga holds a doctorate in Personality-Social Psychology from the University of California, Berkeley, and a bachelor’s degree in psychology from Gettysburg College in Gettysburg, Pennsylvania.

But the guys I date are always jerks!

I hear it all the time. “I am only attracted to one type of guy (girl), and he (she) jerks me around.  What’s wrong with me?” There are a lot of things that go into attraction and partner selection.  Often people find themselves in patterns of one type of partner that never turns out well.  […]

July 1, 2011

Is Compatibility Overrated? Our response to Psychology Today…

There was a blog post in Psychology Today yesterday that had the provocative title “Sorry eHarmony, Compatibility Can be then Most Overrated Factor in Relationship Building”. Ouch…. I am always interested in articles like this. Does the author believe that compatibility is not important? Or is the author simply misinformed about what eHarmony actually does. […]

May 24, 2011

How Attractive is Your Style of Humor?

Is your style of humor a turn on or turnoff? A recent study of eHarmony members found that sense of humor is the most desirable quality both men and women want in a romantic partner. That got us to wondering…does your style of humor make you any more or less attractive to the opposite sex? […]

May 16, 2011

To Err is Human, to Forgive Divine

A long history of research has shown the power of forgiving. It benefits the transgressor and the victim. One of the things that research has been showing recently is that forgiveness isn’t the same across all relationships and can have big impacts on the entire family. An interesting paper by Gregory Maio, Geoff Thomas (Cardiff […]

April 13, 2011

Everybody Loves Lucy

This is Lucy Mae. She is my new, adorable 9 week old lab puppy. My wife and I picked her up just a couple of days ago and brought her home. She is totally fun but has enough energy that she is a bit of a handful. And, as I am sure many dog owners […]

March 30, 2011

Control Yourself

Have you ever found yourself concentrating on a presentation at work for a long period of time and then suddenly you are eating chocolate after chocolate or heading out to smoke a cigarette? Ever wondered why it is so hard to keep yourself under control after a few drinks? Ever gone through a lot of […]

March 15, 2011

Variety May Not be the Spice of Life

Speed dating was built on the principle that you can learn A LOT about someone in the first few minutes of meeting them. This is true. Even within 30 seconds we are pretty good at picking out the broad stuff, like if someone is extraverted or curious. This tells us if someone is a possible […]

February 10, 2011

How You Meet Your Spouse Matters

One of the perks of being the head of eHarmony Labs is that I get to talk to a lot of people about the research behind eHarmony.  It also means that I frequently meet people who met their partner on eHarmony or who have a close friend or relative who did. It’s always cool to […]

February 1, 2011

What Makes or Breaks Your Relationships?

We all idealize the person we’d like to meet and spend the rest of our lives with.  Unfortunately, the chances of finding someone who can live up to all of  those ideals are slim.  All relationships require compromise.  But that doesn’t mean you should compromise on everything, especially those qualities that are most essential to […]


Behind the Number of eHarmony Marriages

“Among such studies I’ve examined, eHarmony stands out as among the more careful ones.” – Wall Street Journal’s “Numbers Guy”, July 29, 2009 Why is it important that, on average, 236 people get married every day after being matched by eHarmony? And how did we come up with that statistic? eHarmony’s exclusive focus on long-term […]