First Date Tips We Love

August 17, 2012

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first date tips1 300x199 First Date Tips We LoveA first date can be intimidating, especially if you have been out of the dating loop for awhile. I thought this list of simple tips from coach Amy Schoen over at YourTango was spot on.

1. Visualize success. Think about your wonderful attributes and not your faults. Take an inventory of your values, skills, talents, interests and “heart.” Leave all your negative thoughts at home.

2. Keep your expectations in check. Don’t start imagining yourself at the altar with your date. I recommend you ask yourself these three questions first: Do I like the person? Does the conversation flow easily with one another? Is there any kind of attraction? And that’s it. If you answer yes to these questions, then I recommend you be open to seeing the person again.

3. Dress appropriately. Be presentable, neat, well-groomed and in casual dress clothes. If you’re a man, don’t come to a date in a t-shirt and jeans. For women, do not come dressed “to kill” by looking overly sexy like you are going to a nightclub. Strive to look like the guy or girl next door and someone who they would feel comfortable bringing home to their parents.

4. Use your values as your guideposts. Know what’s most important to you in your life and look to see if your date has similar feelings. Pay close attention to anything that makes you uncomfortable — your gut is usually right!

5. Be courteous and kind to your date (even if you are not interested). This is truly the golden rule of dating. You never really know where you will see him or her again and who his or her friends are. Always treat people the way you wish to be treated

By keeping these rules of dating in mind, you will have more pleasant dating experiences. This process can truly lead you to meaningful and successful relationships.

What would be your first date tip?

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