As an option, you can follow our Guided Communication process that will:
Help You Break the Ice with Your Matches
The first communication with other singles you're interested in is always the hardest. So at eHarmony, we help you get started. Our Guided Communication option allows you to choose 5 multiple-choice questions that will help you build rapport with your compatible matches and break the ice.
Get to Know Your Matches' Interests and Habits
Understanding yourself as well as your matches' needs is an important key to building a strong relationship. And part of that is knowing what you need in a partner. We'll help you make a list of "must haves" and "can't stands". Is it really important to you that your partner save money wisely? Or that he spends money to enjoy life? We'll prompt you to ask some important questions, and share those with your match to see if your lists line up.
Be Real with Your Matches
Some questions can be difficult to ask a potential partner, but these questions are often the most important. Guided Communication allows you to get to know other singles, before you make the leap. And you'll be glad you found out up front, before you're emotionally invested. The eHarmony process helps you write and exchange questions that explore issues people often overlook until late in their romantic relationships.
When you complete the Guided Communication steps with your matches, you'll move into eHarmony Mail, our private, anonymous message system. If Guided Communication is not of interest, you can jump straight to eHarmony Mail and chat freely with your matches.