Kendra and Joshua
My husband Josh and I were matched on eHarmony. Another match of mine was pursuing me very diligently, while Josh, my now husband, was just content in getting to know me. He informed me that he didn't do long distance relationships, so we just formed a friendship. My other match and I started dating, and I told Josh that I was in a committed relationship with someone else, but I really enjoyed his friendship and would like to stay friends. He, to my surprise, agreed. I dated the other man for 4 month before it ended because I just wasn't falling in love with him. A week after the break up I was going to visit a friend of mine in Arkansas (who ironically was an eHarmony match turned good friend) and decided to stop into Tulsa and meet Josh for the first time. We had a lovely lunch together, and I really enjoyed his company. I didn't feel a romantic connection, but knew we would be even better friends. I gave him dating advice; we talked on the phone a lot. Then he came to visit me in my home town. He showed up on the door step with a new look-- facial hair. I was surprised to find that I was attracted to him. The first time we kissed I knew I was in trouble, because he did NOT look at me with friendship eyes. He was falling in love with me. I told him to guard his heart because I couldn’t promise him anything. I was fresh out of a relationship, and it was too soon for me. I needed a friend, not someone to fall in love with. He told me that I was worth the risk, and that my friendship was enough. So we continued to talk, see each other, and even though I saw him falling in love with me more and more with each visit, he assured me that my friendship was enough.
I dropped a bomb on him and told him I was moving to Dallas to follow my dream, and that I intended to date, since I had never dated any one in my own town. He was understanding and supportive. So the time came for me to go on my first date in Dallas, and I asked Josh how he felt about it. He replied, "I know I want to be with you, but you have to know that about me. So you do what you need to do, date who you need to date, and I'll be here." I went on that date, and the entire time wondered what the heck I was doing. I didn't want to be with this man. I wanted to be with Josh. I realized I was moving to Tulsa, where he lives, one day when I was shopping for apartments and signing a 6 month lease seemed too long because I didn't want to be away from him. So I moved to Tulsa, and we were married less than 6 months later.
Josh and I have a connection that I have never felt with anyone. When he is sad, I physically feel his sadness. He understands me in a way no one else ever has. This is a man that loves me for exactly who I am. He was patient with me when I needed friendship, and didn't rush me into loving him. He is everything I have ever wanted. I didn't believe in the concept of soul mates or fairytales. . . until I met him. I am the most blessed woman in the world. Our wedding day was beyond magical, and I love my husband so very much. I am enjoying every second of this growing old together process. Thank you eHarmony for opening up our worlds to so many new people. Oh, and just a funny side note-- my eHarmony friend in Arkansas is dating a girl he met on eHarmony, they are our good friends and attended our wedding. I believe in this matching system y'all have developed. Thank you for bringing me the man of my dreams.