eHarmony Facts

Broad-based compatibility is the "secret recipe" of eHarmony's matching process. But sharing the importance of this vital component can be difficult. After all, being ready to fall in love doesn't mean you're ready for a lecture on scientific statistics.

Thankfully, compatibility and the other elements of eHarmony's process move well beyond dry science. To help you appreciate the importance of broad-based and deep-seated compatibility, we've taken a close look at our eHarmony members.

Below are the most popular interests and skills cited by eHarmony members.

It doesn't take a scientist to see that men and women have nearly an identical set of interests and skills.

If you were basing your decision on who to choose as a partner by examining these factors, you would be in a lot of trouble. The simple fact is that most people love their family, love their friends, like to travel, enjoy movies, and take pleasure in conversation. If you're going to choose wisely, you have to have a system that sees past these areas deep into the personality traits that determine if people can love each other for a lifetime.

It isn't that skills and interests don't matter. Finding someone who shares your desire to see live music will probably raise the level of joy in your marriage by some degree. It may even be more important in the early stages of your relationship because it gives you a common ground for conversation, and a promising date suggestion.

Knowing that someone considers "caring for children" as one of their best skills is very important. But it really doesn't give you insight as to whether you and this person will be able to enjoy a brilliant marriage.

The great news is that with eHarmony, you're getting the best of both worlds. Each match you receive is deeply compatible with you in the ways that create life-long, healthy relationships. This allows you to analyze their skills and interests with confidence. As we've said before, using eHarmony is like buying clothes in a store where everything fits you perfectly. All you have to do is decide on what you really want to wear.

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eHarmony News - eHarmony joins forces with USA Today and Friendster

eHarmony recently announced its partnership with USA Today, which currently enjoys the highest circulation of any newspaper in the United States. The agreement allows eHarmony to power the USAToday.com Personals service and reach approximately 8 million viewers each month. USA Today continues to promote the new endeavor with a series of prominent quarter-page print ads and high-visibility spots on its Web site. eHarmony is proud to be working with USA Today in this important endeavor.

eHarmony has also partnered with the social networking site Friendster as its exclusive relationship matching service. Friendster has 12 million registered users, who use the service to meet new people and stay in touch with old friends. eHarmony will be providing Friendster users who are ready for a serious relationship with our proven Compatibility Matching System ®.

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eHarmony News - Dream Date Couple Enjoys Hollywood Evening

eHarmony's 2004 Dream Date couple, Claire Schuster and Haroot Hakopian, spent a romantic weekend enjoying Los Angeles and seeing the city's sights.

On Friday, Claire and Haroot paid an inspirational visit to the eHarmony offices in Pasadena, where they met with the entire staff and shared their story.

Their next stop was Burbank. They were VIP guests of the Tonight Show with Jay Leno. Following the 5:00 p.m. Tonight Show taping, the couple headed over to Universal City's renowned CityWalk. Equal parts shopping and entertainment center, the CityWalk boasts a wide range of restaurants, clubs, theaters and stores.

Saturday started early. Claire and Haroot spent the day taking a VIP tour of Universal Studios. This private tour took them through the back lot, prop house and studio facilities of Universal Pictures, and into the massive theme park and its two dozen rides. Perhaps the best perk of all was the VIP "no waiting in line" policy.

After a day of fun and wild rides, Claire and Haroot were ready for some romance. Their limo took them to the season finale of one of LA's greatest treasures, the Hollywood Bowl. This amphitheater was built in 1922 and has been the summer home of the Los Angeles Philharmonic since then. In our dream date couple's private box, dinner was waiting. One of the city's true culinary institutions, Patina, provided them with a gourmet picnic dinner featuring roasted Atlantic salmon to make the evening just right.

The Bowl program, A Night at Moulin Rouge, ended with an earthshaking fireworks display, then it was back to the limo for the short ride back to the Universal Sheraton.

Despite the magic of Claire's and Haroot's Dream Date weekend, the real fireworks started a couple of weeks later. In Hawaii, in front of their families, Haroot proposed and Claire accepted. We consider that the official end of their eHarmony Dream Date.

Testimonials pour in for new Finding the Love of Your Life CD Product

In July, eHarmony announced the release of an exciting new audio CD series, Finding the Love of Your Life. This 12-CD coaching series works hand in hand with your eHarmony matching experience to help you find and grow your soul mate relationship.

The series allows you to spend time with eHarmony founder Neil Clark Warren, who shares his personal insights in hundreds of areas that will make you a wiser dater and raise your relationship IQ.

Interest in the series has been terrific. Of the thousands of Finding the Love of Your Life buyers, many have written in to share their experiences with the product. Here are a few:

I learned an incredible amount of information about myself, relationships and, most important � how to play well with others. I wish I had known all this in my youth. Wow, what I missed, misinterpreted and just plain got wrong. ~ Linda Willet, Grapevine, TX

Click HERE to learn more about the Finding the Love of Your Life series and hear audio samples.

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eHarmony Feature - MAKING THE LOVE IN YOUR LIFE BETTER AND BETTER

A Commonsense Approach to Creating Powerful Love Relationships

By Neil Clark Warren

Do you sometimes find yourself yearning for an increase in the amount of love you experience? Would you like to take your love gauge - that digital adding machine somewhere in your psyche - and just turn it up a few notches? Would you like to experience more love intensity from more people with more frequency?

We all desperately want to feel better and better about ourselves, and we long for relationships in which we feel this way about who we are. After my nearly forty years as a clinical psychologist, having seen over 7,000 separate individuals in psychotherapy, I have concluded that the fundamental motivational principle for all of us is our desire to feel deeply good about ourselves.

And most of us are confident that when we get our love relationships in the right shape, we will indeed start feeling good about ourselves. We reason that it's simple: If we get loved right, we will feel good about being us.

Here's where it gets tricky. It is a thousand times easier to form satisfying love relationships when we are released from the emotional straitjacket of trying so hard to get ourselves loved. The secret to growing the love in our lives is to learn how to help other people feel genuinely good about themselves in our presence. When they do, they will automatically love us.

Be sure to catch the unfolding logic. We need to be loved. People automatically love us when they feel good about themselves when they are around us. So our challenge is to help other people feel good about themselves every time they encounter us.

There are five simple principles to making this strategy work. At first, as you practice these secrets, they may seem a little awkward, but I guarantee that before you know it, your new style will become automatic for you.

Let me lay these principles out for you.

• First, approach every person in your life with an expectation that they have some wonderful attributes.
• Second, in every encounter with this person, look hard and listen intently for just one of these attributes.
• Third, if you need to, ask a question or two to lure one of these attributes to the surface.
• Fourth, as soon as you encounter one of these attributes, even a hint of one, reinforce it with attention - laughter, appreciation or respect.
• Finally, as soon as you discover how to participate with another person so that, like a school of fish, their wonderful attributes swarm to the surface, catch the rhythm of helping them enjoy their best ways of being.

Hi, I'm Robert, and I'm from Albuquerque."

"Hi, I'm Nancy from Little Rock."

(Secret Number One, Robert: Nancy has some wonderful attributes.)

(Secret Number Two: In every encounter with Nancy, look hard for at least one of these attributes.)

Robert: "So, how's the convention going for you, Nancy?"

Nancy: "Well, I found that last speech sort of strangely interesting."

(Secret Number Three: Ask a question to lure one of these attributes to the surface.)

Robert: "Strangely interesting?"

Nancy: "Yeah, I've got to hurry up and make you feel good about being yourself so that you can get to work making me feel good about being me. Boy, you've got to think fast, don't ya? You've got to be an interpersonal rocket scientist."

(Secret Number Four: When you encounter one of these attributes, even a hint of one, reinforce it with attention - laughter, appreciation or respect.)

Robert: "Ha, ha, ha � that's good!"

Nancy: "By the way, I'm sort of new at this; have I made you feel good about being yourself yet?"

Robert: "Ha, ha, ha � you're funny!"

At the most rudimentary level, this illustrates what I am talking about: (1) Approach every person you meet - a stranger or the most important love relationship in your life - with an expectation that they have some wonderful attributes; (2) in every encounter with this person, look hard and listen intently for at least one of these attributes; (3) if you need to, ask a question or two to lure one of these attributes to the surface; (4) as soon as you see one of these attributes, or even a hint of one, reinforce it with attention - laughter, admiration or respect; (5) as soon as you discover how to participate with another person so that, like a school of fish, their wonderful attributes swarm to the surface, catch the rhythm of helping them enjoy their best ways of being.

Some of you are absolute geniuses at this already. I don't know how you did it, but I offer you my heartiest congratulations. And some of you recognize a need to build these secrets into your everyday lives. It excites me to imagine what our lives and our world could be like if all of us could become great lovers of people.

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