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| Welcome to Enlightenment, a bi-monthly look at eHarmony's online matching service and the world of relationships. We are here to enrich your life and help you fall in love for all the right reasons.
IN THIS ISSUE
eHarmony Tips & News The St. Valentine's Special Pricing Offer In honor of St. Valentine's Day, eHarmony is chopping a whopping 20% off our regular membership prices. There's no better way to take action towards creating a great, loving relationship. Until February 28th you can enjoy these deep discounts.
eHarmony CEO carries the Olympic Torch for America's Singles January 16, 2002 - Greg Forgatch, eHarmony co-founder and CEO ran a segment of the Olympic Torch Relay in Oxnard, California on behalf of eHarmony's membership. He wore an official Olympic jogging outfit and carried the 10-pound torch one-fifth of a mile through the streets of Oxnard, ending at an elementary school. In all, more than 11,500 torchbearers are scheduled to run, walk or roll their wheelchairs across 46 states in the 65-day relay, which began December 4 in Atlanta. "There are between 85 and 100 million single Americans searching to find their Soul Mate," Forgatch observed. "With divorce rates rising, it's more important than ever that we focus on the mate selection process. It will revolutionize marriage in our country." Making Your eHarmony Photo Work for You eHarmony's focus, when we create high compatibility matches for you, is what's on the inside. We want you to meet people who share your beliefs and values, the true foundation of long-term relationship success. But, we all know that appearance is important when considering a life mate. We all want to be physically attracted to our significant other. In order to put your best foot forward on eHarmony, you will need to invest some time in your photo. Make Sure it is a Good Photo -- This is your first physical impression, and we all know how influential that is. Take some time and consider the photos you are going to place on eHarmony. Are they current? Do you look your best? If the honest answer is "no," you need to consider getting a fresh set of photos. It's never been easier to buy a disposable camera from a drug store. Have a friend take some pictures, both close up and from 15 feet or so, and you're on your way. Upload, Email or Snail Mail-- We want to make it easy for you to place your photos on eHarmony. So, we give you three methods of doing so. The fastest way/static.is to upload them from your computer.
You can email them to us as an attachment at photos@eharmony.com. Be sure to include your eHarmony username. We accept Gif or JPEG formats in up to 195K. As a third alternative, you may mail us the actual photos for scanning and placement. As you may imagine, this takes more time since we have to scan the pictures. Please write your eHarmony username on the back of each photo. If you will include a Self-Addressed Stamped Envelope with your photos we will mail them back to you. Please send them to: eHarmony Attn: Photos 300 North Lake Avenue, Suite 1111 Pasadena, CA 91101 Exchanging Photos with Your Match-- Once you and a match have reached the Open Communication stage, you can review each other's photos. You don't email photos to your match on eHarmony. Your photos are mounted on a page, and when you both reach Open Communication, this page is revealed. If you are in Open Communication with a match and cannot see their photos, it's because a) They haven't submitted them yet, b) or, they submitted them incorrectly, c) or, they submitted them correctly and are waiting for us to process them. Always be kind when asking about your match's photo. It is perfectly appropriate for you to inquire about why they don't have a photo available. The outside appearance is certainly a part of what makes for a successful relationship and you're entitled to see your match before you become emotionally involved. Great New eHarmony Improvements We are always working to make eHarmony more effective and user friendly. We are pleased to announce these site updates: We remember your 5 favorite multiple-choice questions When you begin communication with a match, the first round consists of exchanging 5 multiple-choice questions picked from a list of 70. Now, the eHarmony system remembers the last 5 questions you picked, so you don't have to sort through the entire list every time. You can now review ALL your match communication Now, as you communicate with your matches, the questions and answers you send and receive are available for review at any time. When you click on REVIEW next to a match's name you will visit this re-designed communication page. The tabs identify the different rounds of communication available for review, making it easy to look back at the questions and answers you and your matches have exchanged. You can share your Personality Profile The eHarmony Personality Profile is an in-depth look at who you are on the inside. In response to your requests, we've now made it possible for you to share this information with a match whenever you like. By clicking on PERSONALITY PROFILE from Your Activity Page you will be able to pick which specific matches you would like to see your profile. Of course, you may choose not to reveal your profile to anyone, or you may choose to wait until you've completed several rounds of guided communication before you release this information. Make whichever decision feels comfortable to you. Remember, your Personality Profile will not be revealed, until you indicate that you want it revealed. New Demographics added to your Self-Selects page When you joined eHarmony, you took an extensive personal questionnaire. You answered many questions about yourself, including your race, religion and education level, among others. We have added these questions to your Self-Selects Page so you can alter or update them at any time. From Your Activity Page you can click on SELF-SELECTS at the bottom of the page and review the following personal areas: match geography, children, education, ethnicity, smoking, drinking, religion, and denomination. With this new flexibility your eHarmony account will most accurately reflect who you are. Feature Story Never Settle for Second Best Singlehood, Valentine's Day and The Good Life There's a change in the way single American's are looking at life. The old ideas about society's expectations are giving way to a new mindset, a new idea about managing life's most important decision. "People are being more demanding. It's a soul mate or nothing, when a generation ago, less than half the people said something similar to that," relationship expert Laura Berman told Good Morning America. In a 1965 survey, three out of four college women said they would marry a man they didn't love if he fit their criteria in every other way. Not anymore." ABCNews.com, Jan 9, 2002 The "needing" a mate to survive, has become "wanting" a soul mate to create a brilliant, loving relationship. For thousands and thousands of singles the tool they've chosen to find that special person is eHarmony. Many single people dread Valentine's Day. They see it as a reminder that they don't have a special person sharing their life. They see all the romantic celebration around them/static.and feel left out and sad. That's all going to change/static.this year you're going to CELEBRATE ST. VALENTINE'S DAY. You're celebrating your decision to select with care- Most relationships are born based on 4 or 5 compatible traits (usually appearance, status, personality and chemistry). Once they begin to spend time together (or in some cases get married!) they encounter the other 23 to 25 critical dimensions. Usually, they are pitifully matched on most of these and the relationship decline begins in earnest. One half of all divorces have been applied for before the end of the third year. eHarmony's scientific matching system will allow you to avoid relationship mismatching. You're celebrating your commitment to know yourself better- According to eHarmony founder and relationship expert Neil Clark Warren, "The challenge of creating a successful relationship is first and foremost the challenge of studying yourself and becoming aware of all the special features that combine to make you the unique individual you are." eHarmony's Personality Profile is an accurate, unbiased assessment of your relationship strengths and weaknesses, allowing you to know yourself like never before. You're celebrating your commitment to in-depth knowledge before you become emotionally involved- As human beings we are, in some ways, at the mercy of our biology. Ending a relationship, even with someone that we know is wrong for us, can be heart wrenchingly difficult once we become emotionally connected. This quicksand effect has created mountains of misery for many well-meaning couples. But, this is misery that you will avoid. eHarmony's guided anonymous communication allows you to get to the important questions early, before you've had a chance to bond emotionally, making it much easier to move on without drama. You're celebrating the way this simple process will allow you to know who shares your hopes and dreams. You're celebrating your decision to hold out for your Soul Mate- Many people decide that good enough is good enough. They decide that being alone is too much pain and settle for the "next" person instead of the "right" person. eHarmony's commitment is to help you fall in love for all the RIGHT reasons, and your decision to join eHarmony shows that you are willing to wait for that convergence of chemistry and compatibility. You're willing to say "No," until you find the Soul Mate that deserves your "Yes." So, on Thursday February 14th call some friends, order a pizza, go out on the town, do something special and celebrate the peace of mind you have from knowing that you'll avoid the relationship pitfalls that plague our society. Celebrate, knowing that when you do meet that soul mate, you'll be ready to make it into the relationship you've dreamed of having. About eHarmony eHarmony provides a solution for single adults who are sincerely seeking a successful and fulfilling relationship. No personal ads or come-on lines. eHarmony is here to provide real help by providing real matches between real people. |