The Single Mom's Guide to Datingby Isabel Thottam
Being a single mother is a lot of work and your children and career likely take up the majority of your time. That being said–when was the last time you went on a date or had a serious relationship? Don’t worry, you’re not alone: dating is tough for everyone and there are plenty of other single parents out there that are wearing the same shows.
If you’re feeling ready to dive back into the dating world, we’ve put together a few tips to help you get back out there with confidence!
Don’t wait too long - but it’s okay to take it slow
Whether you’re just getting out of a messy divorce or are getting over a breakup with your partner, getting back into the dating game as a single parent takes time. But, experts suggest that you don’t draw it out for too long, noting that the longer you wait, the more comfortable you’ll become in your single life. Sure, being comfortable as a single parent can be a good thing, but, dating experts suggest that the issue lies more in with your inner psyche that will find it harder to open up to someone new later down the road.
The best advice is to start slow and stay in control of the dating experience.
Give online dating a try
One way to have control over your re-entering to the dating world is to try online dating. There is not much of a stigma about online dating as there used to be, and experts suggest that online dating can be very useful for busy single mothers. Moreover, if it’s been a while since you met someone new or went on a date, using online dating to meet someone and slowly work toward meeting up in person is a great way to sort of dip your toes in the water without doing too much too soon!
Check out the video below to see how putting yourself out there can turn out! (Scroll down to continue reading)
You don’t need to go to bars and clubs to meet someone
When you were younger, maybe you spend some time dancing in clubs or drinking in bars to meet people. As a single mother, that might not seem as ideal these days, but you might be wondering, “Where am I even going to meet someone?”
The good news is that there are plenty of new ways for you to meet someone–especially if you spend most of your time with your kid. Consider taking your kid to a local farmer’s market, a park or a museum. Not only will you have fun spending time with your kid in these places, but these are also great locations to meet adults too!
Tell the truth about your kid
In the same manner that you teach your kid not to tell lies, dating experts say you should be honest about the fact that you are a single mother. At the end of the day, it’s up to you as to when you are most comfortable mentioning that you have a kid, or if you plan to introduce your kid to your date. But, if you will out an online dating profile and there is an option to say that you have a kid, you should check “yes” and be upfront, rather than having to bring it up later. Moreover, if you do go on a date with someone and they ask if you have kids or it comes up in conversation, just be honest! The great advantage to being upfront about this is that it’ll help you weed out any bad dates or partners.
Embrace your nerves
Getting back into the dating game as a single parent is nerve wrecking–but don’t let that bring you down! Instead, let those butterflies bring you up and try to focus on the excitement of going on first dates again. Being nervous about dating is normal and everyone experiences it, so rather than let that get to your head, dating experts say you should look at the nerves as a sign that you are taking a positive step toward a new moment in your life!