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We offer two ways to connect at your own pace:

Send a Message

via our unique Guided Communication

A 4-step process that is designed to help you learn a lot about your matches in a short period of time.

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Skip the first three stages in Guided Communication and write an email in your own words.
Key Dimensions of Compatibility

Over 10 years ago, a team of eHarmony researchers studied thousands of married couples to determine what set the happiest couples apart from the least happy.

What they found is that chemistry alone is not enough to sustain a relationship over time, nor is a few shared hobbies and interests.

Why Compatibility

We learned that broad-based compatibility—in key areas—best predicts relationship satisfaction and the likelihood for long-term success.

For example, do you and your partner resolve conflict in a similar manner? Are you both spontaneous or do you prefer predictability and planning?

These are just two of the Key Dimensions that form a powerful portrait of who you are and form the basis for how our patented Compatibility Matching System determines your matches.
The three most important things for you to do while you are using eHarmony:

Complete your profile and upload photos:

Members with complete profiles receive significantly more communication from their matches.

Review your matches’ profile and photos:

Carefully read more about your matches and see if their profile sparks your interest.

Communicate with your matches:

Pick the communication style that fits you best. We give you several options.
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