The one thing I am passionate about...
I'm most interested in passions that come through and because of a relationship rather than outside of and despite the relationship. I enjoy writing and making quilts--manly ones. I've been passionate about the nature of love, specifically whether or not money has anything to do with it. I think the only thing good about being poor is one can know what true love really is, and to that extent how deceptive the rest of the world may seem.
I typically spend my leisure time
This varies. If I need to see what I've done after I spend time, I quilt or garden. If I need to focus and fantasize, I write. I much prefer being and living where my leisure and work approach each other. Oh, I absolutely love the outdoors. Most importantly, I love to spend time with the person I'm interested in, regardless of the activity. I like sharing the same air they breathe.
The most influential person in my life has been
Important to me is a person able to give and receive love solely because they choose to, and that the other person exists. It's important to me to build a relationship of refuge from the every day world. A safe, fun place to give and receive comfort without conditions. I hope for a person with the ability to create, instead of find, with another person what they want and need.
The first thing people notice about me
I'm told people notice quickly what kind of shoes a man wears. Bummer, I've never put much priority on them past comfort and function. I suspect what people notice first about me depends upon the situation. Independent of context, people likely notice how I look, or how I'm carrying my looks, you know, whether or not I'm dressed appropriately (usually am), if I'm unshaven (usually not). After they notice how stunningly gorgeous I am, I'm sure they wonder, "Would he really wear dreadlocks if he could" After that, they notice I'm aware of all these things, and then make my choices and live with the consequences of my decisions.
The last book I read and enjoyed
"Story" by Robert McKee. It tought more about life and people than about writing. The foundation principles he elucidates, going back to the Greeks then on up to now, were fascinating. I believe we all tell ourselves some story. The point isn't to not tell ourselves a story, it's to know what the story is your telling yourself. The only yardstick I can think of to measure the degree of unwrapping self-story is the extent to which one sees the stories other people tell themselves that they don't. And story isn't the same as situation. To me, a situation is just a cat sitting on a blanket. A story is a cat sitting on a dog's blanket.
The three things which I am most thankful for
- My faith, regardless of the quality, quanity or conciousness of it.
- My children, and the rest of my family, including my friends.
- Being alive and always living towards a vision, not from a condition.
The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me
I wish they'd notice my potential for a surfers body! No, seriously, I don't have anything I wish people would notice about me they don't. I'd rather be noticed less.
Friends Describe me as
Caring, Generous, Genuine, Perceptive
A little more about me
I sincerely believe the only thing we truly give another person is the quality of our attention at that moment.