The one thing I am passionate about...
I am passionate about doing things that I've never done before. It takes a lot of courage to take leaps of faith into different ventures with unknown outcomes, and I've definetely suffered from some pretty harsh ones. However, it also takes courage to look back with a certain sense of humor--to say to yourself that in spite of whatever good or bad comes from anything you do, you are a better man or woman because of it. I base my entire life on this idea. Currently, eHarmony is a big leap of faith that will at best find me with my soulmate, or at worst, leave me with an interesting story to tell.
I typically spend my leisure time
I enjoy discovering new places to hang out. There's nothing like wasting time on a random street and discovering some new, weird jazz club that just opened. Since I can be lazy at times during the weekdays (well, not really lazy, but tired from working long hours!) I spend a good portion of time checking out music. I'm a big fan of music in general, although most of the stuff I listen to is underground/indie. That's not to say I don't enjoy a top 40 hit or club-banger when it comes around.
The most influential person in my life has been
Openness. Relationships are so difficult to categorize because any two members involved in one are never bluntly honest with each other as to what they want. I want to be able to tell my partner that I want to do something different and unique without getting a look of resignation. With that said, I'm always respectful of what my partner wants, and to that end I always go with the flow, even if I don't get what I want. After all, what's the point of living life if we were to get everything we wanted out of it?
The first thing people notice about me
Honestly--considering that I'm a American-born Dominican from Queens, most people are surprised to hear me sound like what they would consider a "white boy". I don't take any offense to it--I mean, it's understandable when people from the hood see another person from the hood and expect him to speak a certain way but doesn't--now that I've been working a white-collar job though, this doesn't happen as often. At the same time, I don't assign different values to race and language, and I'm not at all alienated from my culture. I'm pretty good at switching my way of speaking around, depending on the situation.
The last book I read and enjoyed
_Slow Man_ by J.M. Coetzee. This author wrote _Disgrace_, which I read a few years back in college. I don't read too often (which is kind of messed up, considering I teach English to high schoolers!) but I picked this up as soon as I saw it because I'm a big fan of the author's writing style. The story is about a man that copes with the recent amputation of his leg. The plot dynamic is very inverted, and focuses not so much on what is happening on the outside, but rather what is developing in the protagonist's mind. It's great stuff.
The three things which I am most thankful for
- My friends, who have made the last ten years memorable ones.
- My job, which is the most satisfying part of my life so far.
- My family--although they drive me crazy at times, I wouldn't be who I am without them.
The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me
I'm a bit shy when I meet someone for the first time. It takes some time for newly met acquaintances to see me for the clown that I really am. I wish people could see that I am really an extroverted guy from the get-go.
Friends Describe me as
Affectionate, Dependable, Easy-Going, Passionate
A little more about me
I am loyal to a fault. Of all the relationships I've had, I've only gone through two long-lasting ones because honesty always compromises what we can create. I'll be by your side to the very end, granted that we know what sides we're on. When we meet, I'll have nothing to hide because I'm not ashamed of anything, and I hope you aren't as well.By the way, something that eHarmony doesn't seem to address--I can be childish at times. I work around kids, and sometimes my coworkers tease me (lovingly, they're a great group of people) because I act like I'm closer to my students' ages than my own.