The one thing I am passionate about...
I am very passionate about reading, keeping 3-4 books going at once. I also love music of most kinds, though I am not a musician. I enjoy some sports, but I limit myself anymore to devoted, pretty intense physical conditioning rather than team sports. I will watch some sports on TV, but do not enjoy spending much time doing that. I enjoy it more with friends than alone. I am passionate about Christian faith and my living it, teaching it, and preaching it (as a minister). Beyond all this I am passionate about my relationship with my sons, though they live 12 hours away. I like a number of "cultural things", and once enjoyed gardening.
I typically spend my leisure time
The things that come most quickly and obviously to mind at this time in my life are reading, exercising, and doing a variety of things with friends. As a pastor, I don't have a lot of leisure time, so I try to "make the most" of the time I have...and it is very important to me. I should mention that my "leisure addiction" is reading and visiting friends at coffee places, like Starbucks! I do some of my study and sermon preparation there as well. In the past I thoroughly enjoyed vegetable gardening, but time limits have kept me from that hobby in recent years.
The most influential person in my life has been
I am looking for someone who is, first, trustworthy and genuine, not vain or self-centered. I am looking for someone who, if a relationship develops, wants to grow in commitment and love and wants to nurture love in its many dimensions over time in an equal and mutual relationship. I seek a person who has an "inner spirit" of understanding, warmth, compassion, genuine care for others, and faith that she also expresses outwardly. I want a person who is intelligent and confident enough to "be herself," yet is also confident and comfortable enough to share vulnerability at times. And...someone who enjoys just being together!
The first thing people notice about me
Wow! I really had no clue what this answer should be, so I had to ask a friend and my two sons. It seems that my "infectious laugh" comes to the top...so I'll go with that! I might have guessed my openness, friendliness, or genuineness too. If we meet, you can tell me what you think...
The last book I read and enjoyed
As I said in the "things I'm passionate about," I love reading! It's almost as if I've rediscovered it at new intellectual levels in the last few years. In addition to the reading I necessarily have to do as a minister, I like to keep 3 or 4 books of different kinds going at once. One of the latest I've enjoyed is Habits of the Heart. It looks in-depth at our heritage of both "rugged" individualism and the biblical and republican principles that promote the common good in America and how the two relate. It's fascinating. I've also recently read and enjoyed the fictional work The Help and Rocket Men about America's 1969 landing on the moon.
The three things which I am most thankful for
- For Christian faith, my ministry, and for the perspective they give to life and the strength to my life.
- For the full experience of my life up to now-the growth, maturity, and depth it has brought me.
- For my two adult sons, for many good and wonderful relationships with others, and how both enrich my life.
The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me
People generally notice right away that I am extroverted...open, accessible, caring, and friendly. I genuinely enjoy people and my time with most people. But, being as open to others as I am, I ALSO need times of "retreat" to myself, alone with someone special to me, with a book or music to rejuvenate. I put a great deal of energy into people and my time with them, so it's the need to get away for that 'other kind' of time that I wish people were able to notice more.
Friends Describe me as
Caring, Genuine, Intelligent, Spiritual
A little more about me
I guess any "additional information" that might come as part of a relationship is one of the fun and risky aspects of the relationship. It's something to look forward to! That said, I will say that I have been divorced 13 years. In that time I have had a couple of short-term relationships, have learned a lot about myself, and what I am and am not looking for in a relationship. I would love, and have always wanted, a wonderful partnership with a woman, but don't want to rush anything. I want to grow and learn together. Being by yourself really isn't the worst thing of all!