Comments on: Do nice guys really finish last?

By: GeorgeOfTheJungle

GeorgeOfTheJungle — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 17:38:16 +0000

Basically, men are pigs and women are pretentious and self diluted liars. Neither gender is “better” than the other.

By: phil

phil — Tue, 12 May 2009 17:12:15 +0000

absolutly not , it depends on ones conotation as to whats last. many nice guys finish the race . true some may finish before he does but he finishes.
i see alot of advice based on personal expeirences but they tend to be biased one way or another depending on if it was a good or bad relationship or not. what i don’t see is info given that can actually help the nice guy land the girl without insulting the hell out of him.
i’m absolutly for the nice guy, reason being i was one and still am but i was snatched up by a nice girl before i could do anymore damage to my self esteem (lol). she chased me and i was the one wondering if i wanted to get involved with her or not. fortunatly i made the right decession almost 40yrs now married. it helps to be equally yoked also we’re both christians both were shy and alot of other stuff you don’t need top know. (lol).

ok nice guys are never told about body language of girls which gives signals out (subconsciencely or delibertly) all this info on body language can be found on the internet free. why aren’t nice guys told aboput body language
its a secret that girls/women prefered that men didn’t know. why do you think they can read men so well. we guys send out body language as well and their better at interpreting it than we are. ok, occassionally this includes the nice girls also they are not familiar with mens body language so they have know idea if a (nice,shy )guy likes them or not. same goes for the nice guy .
the nice guy(pardon me here guys ,this may be the only small bad thing i may say here ,but i was qiulty of it also) we get fixated on one particular girl(that supposed dream girl) you know the one that puts us in the freind zone so readly. because we are (presumed ,assumed,and all the other negative things said by many of the girls. (note here this doesn’t apply to all girls/women so no flaming here ok, its just to those that are and do these kind of things to guys) as said we get fixated on this one girl and we start wearing blinders so to speak . and some of the nice cute/good looking girls see’s us pining after this (that girl we have pined after fixated on) and we miss the body language of girls that would really like to go out with us if we only knew and realized that they were broadcasting sometimes big time at us. for example guys a girl that may be talking in a group or even just between the two of you she’s swirling her hair around her fingers while speaking to you sometimes it can be with eye contact if in a group or maybe not if just between the two of you. (if your alone with here and she’s speaking to you and swirling her hair around her finger(s) she likes you guys. if in a group and she’s looking at you and the hair thing guys she’s flirting with you. (this in many cases is a subconscience thing tand she may not even realize at the time she’s doing it.) if her eyes are dialilated large
while looking at you thats a good indication also she interested in you(just be aware that if your in a darken room say at a bar or night club this may only be because of the darken room but if their are other signals in the mix also then that can be a good sin also. ever see a girl/women with a shoe balanced on the end of her toe (sort of like playing with it and flipping it up and down with little thrusts) if she’s looking at you at the time she is definitly into you.

ok the above is little things that we as nice (shy,quiet,nerds,geeky,and any other terms we may be known as) that we knew possibbly nothing of . and to the nice girls some of the above info (check out on line body language of guys ,you may be surprised by how much we guys broadcast signals also (however we do it at times unknowingly and subconscienecly just as you girls do.)

so whats this all boiling down to alot of the above statements are crap and really plays no importance or even helps a nice guy know why he can’t seem top get a break in the dating scene. hmmmm…. wonder why now guys . don’t believe me ,check out … do a google search on girls/womens body language . then print it out and go someplace you know were guys and girls go to hook up so to speak. watch the guys and the girls and how the girls body language says weither their interested in the guy or not. how can we fiqure out if the girls not interested in the guy (by those body language signs/signals she does and yes their are those also guys) you may even get a chuckle or two at seeing some dude thinking he’s being so smooth being turned down by her body language. also note guys if she’s giving out all the positive signals if the guy gets with her or not.

if any of you guys were like me when i was in high school you may have been shy(paranoid , afraid of rejection because it happened so many times, that you were realy hesitant about approaching a girl for any reason )
well if you checked out any of the web sites that gave this girls body language and you actualy (military term here ) recon the situation.
and found that it actually works . would you be as hesitant to ask a girl out
knowing with about a 90% or better that you would get a date make you feel more confident. hmmmm…

By: jenny

jenny — Sun, 03 May 2009 23:16:26 +0000

I’m a bit late coming into this conversation, but I have to say that I agree with Patrick’s post. On the flip side, I can’t believe how many good-looking, kind guys I know who put up with game-playing, bitchiness, and just crap in general from women. And not even drop-dead gorgeous women at that. Sometimes it’s so puzzling why people are attracted to certain types (bad boys, mean women, etc.). I am convinced that guys – even “nice guys” – don’t want nice girls. Perhpas they too want the thrill of the chase, the drama that goes along with dating someone who isn’t always upfront or kind.
Honestly though, I think there’s nothing hotter than a great guy who is kind, genuine, available, funny, etc., who is totally into me, and who I can be totally myself with. That’s sexy.

By: Lynn

Lynn — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 13:25:07 +0000

What I have experienced is when you are pretty and nice the guys don’t know how to respond, all situations being different depending on your location. At work it depends on my position being the manager they are all nice, in the line at Walmart a good looking guy want speak and a average on down will be so nice. I have even had them say,( how can you be so nice and pretty) like they were expecting me to be a snob. Whats the deal? Can’t there be nice looking and nice people all in one? Yes, there can be it’s a choice to be a snob or nice. Remember we get what we give it’s our choice on whether we settle for the wrong ones for the wrong reasons.

By: Dan

Dan — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 02:52:22 +0000

I am amazed at how considerate and just plain decent a man can be and how TERRIBLY that same man is treated by nearly everyone.

By: Raiul

Raiul — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 23:19:51 +0000

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Very Interesting post! Thank you for such interesting resource!
PS: Sorry for my bad english, I’v just started to learn this language
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Your, Raiul

By: Jan

Jan — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 09:51:17 +0000

“the wild “bad boy” ends up being a self-centered jerk who causes the woman far more pain than excitement, and far more of a sense of vulnerability, when the relationship goes through hard times. In short, the bad boy doesn’t know how to care about other people,” Don, been there, done that, and the pain was so great that I have about decided not to even look at pictures anymore, LOL! Physical attraction is a must for both sexes, however, and a nice guy can be a looker as well. In fact, if he doesn’t see himself as attractive or sexy, and by that, I mean not flaunting it like a bad boy would, I find that all the more alluring, a HUGE bonus for him. It is NEVER too late to grow up, and never too late to find your nice guy. And certainly what is boring for one gal may not be for another. The “bad guy” I most recently dated wanted a make-up laden fashion diva, and suggested this to me on a couple of occasions. I told him to go get her. I am a well dressed 50-something who doesn’t need nor want that sort of disrespect, and it has to be stopped even before it gets started. I will take the nice guy anyday….

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eharmony discount coupon — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 03:53:03 +0000

Women prefer bad boys. End of story. Sometimes those women grow up. Sometimes though when they do, it’s too late.

By: Catherine

Catherine — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 01:35:48 +0000

I have always been attracted to nice guys, and have never liked jerks. My dad was a nice, fun, outgoing guy, and that’s what I’m drawn to.

“Nice guy” is often associated with someone who’s also a wimp, or boring, or just lacking in confidence. None of this is necessarily true. There are wonderful men out there who are kind, self aware, confident, who love and respect women. And they have no problem getting women to love and respect them back.

This study is very limiting, because it’s not saying what kind of women are attracted to what. Sure, there are plenty of women who are only attracted to bad boys. But if a woman reaches a certain level of depth and self-esteem, she won’t accept anyone who treats her badly.

So in my opinion, if you want a partner who is sexy, confident, interesting, exciting, and KIND, simply because they love people and the world around them, then be that type of person and that’s what you attract.

By: Patrick

Patrick — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 07:48:05 +0000

I think a woman wants the good, honest, respectful guy. But they also want a guy that will try something new. The “nice guy” stereotype is often a man that has too much of a pattern, and is afraid to change that. The “bad boy” can be unpredictable, bringing an air of spontenaiety.

Also, the “nice guy” often makes the mistake of being too repectful. Respect is good, but some take it so far as to almost turn off their sexuality completely. This gives the woman the impression that he is not really interested. The “bad boy” is often overly self-centered, so natually, their focus is primarily on sex and other forms of personal gratification on many levels. This gives a woman a false sense that he is interested in her, after all, he has been checking her out from the start.

Then there is the fact that a “nice guy” may give the impression of being weak, afraid to stand up for what he believes in, and unsure of his own opinion. The “bad boy” appears confident, determined, and acts strong. Normally, this is due to the “bad boy” not caring about others’ viewpoints, and determined to do what they want, regardless of the effect it has on others. Once again, it can be difficult to see the truth of the matter right away.

All in all, I think woman do want the sensitive, compassionate, loving guy, they just want to make sure he has a backbone, is willing to try new things, and is in touch with his sexuality, and therefore can please them too. Just my take, I’m a man though, so i might have missed it totally.