Comments on: Beautiful Women Want More

By: brandon

brandon — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 05:27:36 +0000

Hello all,

I have to agree. As a 49 year old man that is considered a 7-8 on a 10 scale by most women my economic situation defeats me frequently. I go into the bar and with not even having to ask women come up to me. But when i tell them what i do for a living(cause they invariably ask)
they flee the scene!

By: Maggie

Maggie — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 19:02:31 +0000

I find that men close you out on eHarmony without ever trying to get to know you. Sometimes I think they look at your picture and profile and think this woman would never be interested in me and close you out before you can reject them. I respond to every man that writes me. I have never been a rules girl, but I am changing my mind on that point. As soon as the man thinks they have you, no more calls, no more emails, and you are left doing the work to keep the relationship alive. I don’t care what you look like, what your career is, or how many men talk to you, buy the rules and follow them! – “All the Rules,” by Fein and Schneider. Another good book is “He’s Just Not That Into You,” by Greg Behrendt. Nobody wants a game player, however, once a man finds out you really like him the relationship starts to cool off. Men really do love the chase, no matter what they tell you. My girlfriend is a “rules” girl, and she dates all the time, and she is not as good looking as I am, not as smart as I am, and not as successful as I am. I have read the rules, and I am now a rules girl.

By: Anamarie

Anamarie — Thu, 21 May 2009 08:58:39 +0000

As a young woman I suffered a lot because not being attractive and sexy enough to men..yes I’m reasonable attractive but when in the company of other women men do not even give me a glance I’m not as sexy looking like the other women I’m more like a classic ballerina with classic features and men especially the strong type of men they like strong sexy women and I did not like to go out with ugly men that good looking women did not want for themselves..eventually I gave up and I avoid as much as I could to be with other women in partys or reunions I ‘ve learned to live by myself with my small bussines and to be with my family only..if life is like that for me..so be it

By: eharmony coupon

eharmony coupon — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 04:19:03 +0000

Men just want the most attractive woman their lifestyle can afford. It’s really just that simple. However, what is “attractive” differs from person to person.

Women, however, just want a guy who isn’t afraid to make a decision.

By: Rectitude

Rectitude — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 22:03:36 +0000

Kevin a few posts above me is right, women are actually more shallow than men. Yep I said it, and it’s true. Most guys just want someone decent looking, someone that will go to the local sports bar w/ them and eat hot wings like one of the guys from time time. A good looking woman however wants it all, money, looks, social status, a comedian personality, the list is endless. What American women expect from a man now is incredible. Being a good looking man that could be a loving partner forever isn’t enough anymore for American woman. I blame television/movies partially. This all ends up hurting the women in the end though…as many women are actually very unhappy deep down inside even though they may be driving around in some fancy sports car that their rich fiance bought them. Ladies, good looking or not, if you can find a guy thats in shape, decent looking, faithful and loving to you, earns some money, your lucky enough right there. Like Kevin above me, I’m good looking, in shape, and have a great personality, but I don’t make alot of money, so here I am in my thirties, never married, and having one heck of a time trying to even get a simple date from even an average looking woman. Hopefully EHarmony will come through for me, I’m about to give up trying to find someone in this world. Women have just become too shallow and picky, especially the physically attractive women.

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 05:28:15 +0000

It’s great to read so many perspectives. I had set a “must have” that my man is to be physically fit/attractive. Being that I am open to be flexible in some areas, I thought that I would let this requirement go with the last person I dated. At first impression, he was charming, articulate, strong career. However, he was overweight and not very handsome. But because of all the other qualities, I made a decision to accept his invitation to start dating him. It turned out that we had a different mentality when it came to eating habits, stamina (in every area), and communication. He is highly opinionated. His charm and career hid his insecurities and close-mindedness, and he ended up feeling insecure around my friends and family who are confident and outgoing. I feel I did both he and I a disservice by compromising my standards. For me, it won’t happen again.

By: Selina

Selina — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 00:01:44 +0000

I truly believe it is inherrent in human nature (in this context women) to desire to be as beautiful as you can be. I think most humans enjoy looking at a person of beauty or a measure of attrativeness. I do not find this offensive or shocking..I do believe most women have in them …so type of phsical beauty. Physical beauty has different levels and is very subjective.
We all have our areas preference. If we deny or simply overlook these issues…it does not change them.We are simply choosing our perspective.
I believe all women have a natural beauty in some arena..we simply need to care enough to “find” ourselves and be who we truly are …and have the confidence in ourselves and God to exercise the freedom…that..I think is the beginning of natural beauty and attraction..

I do believe women who have arrived at this revelation realize they truly have a “choice” and exercise the option..Not because of our recognition of beauty..but , simply our recognition of VALUE.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 07:09:03 +0000

Regardless of whether you are a man or a women it is the height of shallowness to place a high premium on outer beauty! It goes without saying that everyone should have good physical hygeine and should be health conscious, but as long as these requirements are met, you should not judge a person primarily on outer beauty. It doesn’t excuse it to say things like, “its sad but true”. It doesn’t have to be true. Anyone can make the choice to value things other than physical beauty. If I were running a dating website, I would require matches to go through guided communication before being allowed to view each other’s photos so that both people could focus on the important qualities first.

By: Patrick

Patrick — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 07:11:34 +0000

My personal “research” confirms this – hot women want a guy who brings the goods to the table. Do we really need research to figure this one out?

What amazes me are the absolutely gorgeous women who date and marry absolutely hairy, gross, overweight, and unattractive men. What are these women thinking??!!!!

Hey!!!! I’m over HEEEEEERE!!!!!!!

By: Linda

Linda — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 19:34:57 +0000

Kevin – what you say may be true in some cases, but I am 5′2″, and would prefer someone who is 5′7″ over someone who is 6′ or taller. I assume there are other women out there who prefer someone of your height….be patient, she will come along.