Comments on: But does he KNOW he’s ugly?

By: Tamara

Tamara — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 11:23:40 +0000

If all you want to do is admire yourself in the mirror then what a curse your good looks are. I had a very handsome man in my life that was so conceited, I had no choice but to ditch him.

By: Tonya

Tonya — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 08:16:38 +0000

I would rather be with a less good looking man because then I don’t feel like I have to be so perfect myself. I have dated both a very good looking man and a less good looking man, I feel more like myself with a less good looking man. Why be with a very good looking man if you can’t be yourself?????????

By: loveguru

loveguru — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 21:01:09 +0000

he is trying to say something else but labeled it wrong and tried to say this applies to everyone. not true, plenty of happy hot couples out there. the thing he is trying to say is that usually the less good looking guys are ones that are very nice. and many hot women get tired of dealing with a**holes so they start to appriciate less good looking guys because they can see those good qualities. now i dare you say i am wrong because i am never wrong. ( and remember , there are always exeptions, not everything applies to everyone)

By: gt

gt — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 18:12:26 +0000

Weeeeelllll, I dunno! All I have to relate is my vast personal experience with being an ugly male! BUT! I have had the attitude that I am a unique and amazing guy since I was 12! My experience has been that there are an awful lot of women out there that are attracted to guys with confidence in themselves, MUCH more than the cute or handsome wimps who don’t ever have an idea in their head! It used to be noticed that “Women are greatly attracted to men in uniform!” BULL! Women are attracted to men with CONFIDENCE in their ability to master any situation in which they find themselves!!! And ANY graduate of Parris Island HAS that!! And I don’t give a hoot whether they’re handsome or not! Women WILL recognise that confidence and treat the guy with respect as they KNOW they’re safe with them, unless the guy’s a nut!! And with our Genes, that’s a survival trait!

By: Ivette

Ivette — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 00:29:02 +0000

The bottom line is it comes down to attraction. Who and what attracts you is a relative issue. If you are attracted to bald, short, fat men… so be it! If you are attracted to Calvin Klein models.. so be it! Do you like your girls super thin? Great! Do you want them with big round behinds? Great! Why do people get so touchy about another person’s PERSONAL preference? Just learn to love yourself and to be excited about who YOU are. You are not going to convince a guy that loves dating super models to love the 4 ft chubby girl (not unless he WANTS to) HOWEVER, there will be a guy out there that will see that 4 ft chubby girl as a queen and will see that super model as nothing but skin and bones. There are exceptions to every rule because, once again, it’s a personal thing. And a guy that isn’t choosing me because I’m not Kate Moss isn’t hurting me, he’s doing me a huge favor because now I can move on to find the one that wants me how I am. And that guy that wants a Kate Moss look a like? Good luck to him. I wish him all the best. It doesn’t make me any less of an amazing woman!
I have another one for you! How many times have you seen a gorgeous guy with a not so pretty girl or vice versa? You see the people turn heads and whisper as they walk by hand in hand. I bet nobody would blink twice if they were both not so hot. Come on people, let’s get over it. Let’s stop taking other people’s personal preferences so personally. Who am I to say how a relationship should or shouldn’t be, how it would be the happiest, and who should date who and why? Based on what? My standards? My beliefs? My needs and wants? Why? How am I to say what will and won’t work FOR YOU? And a jerk isn’t a jerk because he’s hot, he’s a jerk because he’s a jerk! Do you see what I’m saying?

By: Angus

Angus — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 21:45:53 +0000

Honestly, quite a lot of men will not give a woman they see as unattractive a second glance. There are some of us who are more worried about getting along, having the same likes and dislikes, and just feeling the connection. But don’t fool yourself, there are millions of guys out there who want nothing to do with the chubby girl in the corner, no matter how great of a person she may be. They just don’t give them a chance. And that includes a lot of men who are ugly, and trust me, we know we are.

By: judi

judi — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 23:28:23 +0000

Just a little tidbit. Relationships should first of all be about two people coming together because they are strong together as spiritual beings. It makes the relationship unity. They should be there to encourage each other to reach their fullest potential. without this forget it all together.

By: Nigel

Nigel — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 10:55:34 +0000

Kasey, you may think that what Christine said is true, but someone who is too lazy to use the shift key at the beginning of a sentence really should not criticize another’s accidental misspelling.
Her pontifications are, however, not true. They are the product of a very blinkered viewpoint.
I have dated a lady with a double mastectomy and we got along just fine until she found another bloke that she preferred. They are still together years later.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 02:51:16 +0000

Christine, several good points. Except I recently shaved my head to support a good friend going through a pretty rough illness–and was asked out despite being bald at the time.

By: Kasey

Kasey — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 05:51:41 +0000

Christine, awesome retort. Everything you said is absolutely true!