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]]> http://www.eharmony.com/labs/blog/2007/07/divorce-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-2359 Michele Myers Sat, 29 Sep 2007 06:09:07 +0000 http://www.eharmony.com/labs/blog/2007/07/divorce-and-dating/#comment-2359 A few days ago, I signed up on eHarmony and came to the process knowing that I did not want to have children and did not want any potential match to want or have children. But, I’m afraid that I must have been niave to assume that a man between the ages of 41 and 55 years old would not have had a previous relationship without children. My fear with dating a man with children was them possibly seeing me as an interloper or a rival for their father’s affection, love, and time. I didn’t want to put myself in that situation, so I negated any man that mentioned children in their “About Me” information page. If I could do it all over again, I would reconsider my matches with Anthony, Douglas, James, Kole, Norman, Robert, and Tom. What if I let my fear of rejection from the children or having an initially adversarial relationship with them over their father’s love, time, and affection be the reason to reject these men out of hand. If the divorce causes a breach that the child has problems getting over or adjusting to, then that does not bode well for starting a new relationship. There will be extreme challenges and familial dynamics from the onset of such a relationship. Is it worth taking a chance? Probably. You don’t always achieve things without some difficulty, adjustment, and/or compromise. In the future, I will be more open-minded. A few days ago, I signed up on eHarmony and came to the process knowing that I did not want to have children and did not want any potential match to want or have children. But, I’m afraid that I must have been niave to assume that a man between the ages of 41 and 55 years old would not have had a previous relationship without children. My fear with dating a man with children was them possibly seeing me as an interloper or a rival for their father’s affection, love, and time. I didn’t want to put myself in that situation, so I negated any man that mentioned children in their “About Me” information page. If I could do it all over again, I would reconsider my matches with Anthony, Douglas, James, Kole, Norman, Robert, and Tom. What if I let my fear of rejection from the children or having an initially adversarial relationship with them over their father’s love, time, and affection be the reason to reject these men out of hand. If the divorce causes a breach that the child has problems getting over or adjusting to, then that does not bode well for starting a new relationship. There will be extreme challenges and familial dynamics from the onset of such a relationship. Is it worth taking a chance? Probably. You don’t always achieve things without some difficulty, adjustment, and/or compromise. In the future, I will be more open-minded.

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