There were several variations of niche events that the article describes, but what made these attractive to couples was the satisfying conversation that was generated after each of the events. These things were new experiences for their relationship- something out of their routine. So, does it matter whether the event was a lecture, art exhibit, or spelling bee? Probably not. The benefits of the experience might come from the concept of shared, novel experiences on close relationships. Turning to the isles of relationship research, Aron et al. (2000) found that those couples who participated in novel activities- especially those that were new, exciting, and arousing to the couple- were associated with higher levels of relationship satisfaction and lower boredom in the relationship. These were not events that the couple already liked and simply did more of- but new activities that both members enjoyed. Even couples who had been together awhile still received the satisfaction boost. So yes, that philosophy lecture counts as a novel activity (especially if it generates spirited debate afterwards), but so will dance classes, laser tag, or bowling; all these (and more) can maintain satisfaction with your partner, as long as it’s new and enjoyable for you both. So go ahead- program the DVR and get out of the house. Your TV show will be there when you get back.

Further Reading:

Aron, A., Norman, C.C., Aron, E.N., McKenna, C., & Heyman, R. (2000). Couples’ shared participation in novel and arousing activities and experienced relationship quality. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78, 273-284.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/04/15/AR2007041501096.html?hpid=sec-nation